Feeling down

Hi Raf44,

When we first hear we have cancer we go through a sort of grieving process..... it's perfectly natural, it's our minds way of trying to cope with the shock, so don't feel bad about feeling bad. It's allowed!

There are lots of people on here who have beaten or who are beating TNBC and I'm sure someone will pop up soon enough to help you deal with it. They're a really good bunch on here, very supportive and you usually find that people with similar diagnosis help each along, so you won't be alone, now that you've asked for help.

Thirdly, its scarey that a  second mass has been found, but at least it has been found! Now it's there, it can be dealt with. Treatment is what is needed for both masses and it will happen in good time, I promise you, that once they are on it and they have the plan in place, it will start moving. I thought my surgery was never going to happen, but I had it yesterday. 

Sorry I can't be more helpful, but I didn't want you to think that no one was listening. Remember the breast care nurses are there for you whenever you have any worries or concerns and there are areas on these boards where you can ask professionals questions too. 

Take care xxxx

I’m sorry things just keep coming for you, I experienced exactly the same thing. I had no idea anything was wrong until 50 routine mammogram then Second lump found during MRI, Click on my name and you can read my profile. I’m 7 weeks from being diagnosed. I have had surgery and I’m now recovering. Waiting is so hard, but my journey has started and your road to recovery will start very soon. Allow your self time to come to terms with things. It’s a bit like a roll a coaster of emotions, but this group is fab and you need to know you are not alone. 

Hi Raf44

It is a shock to be told you have cancer. We all cope in our own way. I have found talking on here really helpful and I hope you will as well.

It is scary when you get the news and I understand about feeling negative, that is only natural. I have been struggling for the past couple of days and the breast nurse pointed me in the direction of Maggies. You can google them if you have not heard of them.

That is good that the cancer hasn't spread to the lymph nodes. Hang on to that if you can. I'm sure you will have good and bad days as we all do. Hope this helps you. Take care xx

Hi Raf44

Your reaction is completely understandable, you have had a massive shock and when you are 1st diagnosed it’s an excruciating waiting game for results, and you think you’ve heard everything, then there’s something else, it just seem to keep on coming. I am 8 months on from my diagnosis, not the same as yours, but I recall being so shocked and all over the place. I can only tell you what helped me get through those first weeks.....I went for a walk on my own everyday, although you are not on your own, your experience is unique to you, having time to think out of the house can help (lockdown makes it so much harder). I cried my eyes out a lot, and was also very scared. I also found focusing on healthy eating helped me feel I was doing something useful.  As treatment started, which seemed to take forever, I began to feel more positive that at least something was happening to maybe cure me. You are taking a journey into the unknown but there are lots of us here who have felt as you have and are finding a way through, as you will. You are not alone Raf44.

Keep on keeping on xx

Thanks rebblespad, I hope you have a good recovery. Sending you a big hug

Thank you very much, xx

Thanks Cyprusfav, wishing you very best with your treatment and recovery. Xx

Thank you

You're welcome Raf44! I'm doing ok, wasn't a bad procedure at all for me and I'm just at home chilling now awaiting results xxx