Welcome to the forum. Its horrible and it's scary having cancer. It takes time to process it. I couldn't even say the word out loud for bursting into tears. I think we all think worst case scenarios. The fear of the unknown.
Give yourself time to process it. Be kind to yourself. Once you know what your facing and have a treatment plan you can take back some control.
I was where you are last May since then I've had op, chemo, radiotherapy and now on Letrozole.
I am back at work. Its a journey but one you can share with others on here.
Make use of macmillan nurses and cancer care. I wish you well in your recovery. Listen to your body. Rest when needed and be kind to yourself xx
Most people seem to find this part the hardest and start to feel less out of control when they know their treatment plan. Do you know yours yet? I had a lumpectomy and radiotherapy last year and now on tamoxifen for five years. None of these have been anywhere near as difficult as I imagined.
Things that helped when I was scared was writing in a journal. It helped writing down my fears and worries and trying to process how I was feeling. Exercise has also been so important. It helped to put my diagnosis to the back of my mind, even if only for a short time, and I am convinced is the biggest reason I recovered so well and have no ongoing issues.
When you know what your treatment plan is I am sure everyone here will be happy to share their experiences and support you the best they can. x
Never thought i would be here after all my mammogram have came back ok was a shock to get this one, Been told iam having lumpectomy on 5th Nov that's as much as I know at the minute, x
It is a massive shock, we always seem to think it’s something that happens to someone else and not us. It’ll take a bit of time to get your head around. It’s good you have a date, though, as at least you know what is happening next. x
Hi, I was diagnosed in August. For the first few days I was numb and so tired. The thought of saying it out loud was horrible. Once I told the people I needed and wanted to tell I sort of settled. I hate the word, always have and always will. If you have got the ‘pack’ try not to read all the info at once. Choose one piece per night, read it and put it away. My biggest fear was the lumpectomy. I tried not to think about it too much though. I had it last week and whilst it’s not my idea of a fun day out it wasn’t as bad as I had envisaged. Be kind to yourself over the next few weeks, rest as much as you can and do things for YOU! x
Thank you, I havnt look at the pack yet, was diagnosed last week got my date for lumpectomy which is next mth,lot of fear about getting it done but know it has to be, hope your doing ok xx
Hello, I had my lumpectomy 3 weeks ago, and the whole experience in hospital wasn’t as bad as I thought. It’s possible you’ll be on the day surgery ward with other women having the same procedure and that really helped as we were all chatting and helped us relax. In the lead up I think I was a little blasé about it all, got it in my head I was going to sail through everything, be driving in a couple of days and kept saying to people I don’t know what all the fuss was about. Everyone is different, there’s definitely no right or wrong, I felt I didn’t want to talk about it as I didn’t want anyone else to have to worry about me, but a friend said it wasn’t about them worrying it was about them being able to support me, that struck a cord, so try not to be afraid of opening up to your close friends or family.
Thank you, i have been told its a day surgery as long as all gos ok, apart from my brother and my kids no one knows, they are the ones that matter to me hope your doing ok
I’m feeling a lot better today thank you. The 2 days after the op were fine, I think that was due to the fentanyl! But I expected to feel better each day but felt worse before feeling better, which made it hard when everyone is asking each day, how are you feeling? And to keep my own ‘spirits up’ helped to read online that it was the same for others. It took me just over 2 weeks to start feeling better, I did develop a seroma (where fluid fills up the gap) the ‘sloshing’ sound and feeling was very odd! But that went after about a week too. Been having results anxiety this week, due on Tuesday, but this group is great, so glad I found it! Hope you manage to switch the stress off, or at least turn it down a bit x
