Feeling isolated

Hi Reynolds1,

Sorry you are going through this without much support for the reality  of the disease. Cancer is cancer no matter what stage.

I like you had preventative chemo and lost my hair also. Cancer is tough the treatment is tough. The worst part is our heads, the what ifs the uncertainty. Even now I have returned to work and my hair is growing back. I still go straight to has the cancer spread for every ache or pain I probably wouldn't have given a second thought. The psychological change the anxiety is very real. Until you experience this I think it's difficult to understand. 

You've done the right thing reaching out here, the macmillan nurses and cancer care are also great supports.

I wish you well with your treatment and recovery. Take the time to yourself, listen to your body and rest when you need it. I think people say you'll be fine because they don't know what else to say or to cover up their fears. Sending hugs xx

Thank you so much missmolly you’ve made so really good points I will take on board 

I’m glad your treatment is over but wish the anxiety would disappear for you , although I know I will be the same 

take care and thank you again for reaching out to me x

Take care. Be kind to yourself. Sending hugs xx

Hi Reynolds1, how are you feeling now? I did feel for you when you mentioned people's comments. It is a significant diagnosis and a worry for you. It's hard to come to terms with, no matter what people say to try and make you feel better or grateful that it isn't worse, they mean well but it probably hurts :( I'm waiting for my biopsy result, but the breast assessment clinic doctor yesterday thought it was suspicious due to the star like shape, hardness etc. Its 16mm. I have felt a bit upset inside as my partner hasn't been very sympathetic and said imagine if you were a single Mum with young children ( I'm 64, no children). He said it's more of an inconvenience and is thinking about it practically, that it can be removed and I can have radio. He's looking at his diary and asking me to plan my appointments around his work, although his work is voluntary and he doesn't need to be there. So I felt for you as people may be trying to reassure you that it could be worse but I know that doesn't help. You feel lost and I just feel like giving you a big hug and listening to how you're feeling. Sending you a big online hug x