Shock breast cancer diagnosis

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Hello there. 

I am 66 years old, retired, with no family history of cancer of any type. I had a mammogram in February, which was all-clear, so, when I discovered a lump in my right breast, I wasn't too concerned. However, it just continued to grow, so I saw my GP, who referred me on the 2-week pathway. This turned out to be more like a 4-week pathway, so I went to my local private hospital for a diagnosis.

After my mammograms and ultrasound scans, they told me that I do have breast cancer and an enlarged lymph node in my armpit. They took biopsies of both and I have to wait 10 days to see my consultant to be given full diagnosis and treatment plan. He has already told me that I am looking at a mastectomy, due to the size of the lump. At age 66, I think that that is a small price to pay if it removes my cancer. However, I suspect that I will need chemo, which worries me more than the operation! I have no family history of cancer of any type, but I have inherited the family heart problems as well!

It's difficult to know when to tell friends and family. However, the friends I have told have been brilliantly supportive. I admit to have dabbled in Google, but this made me feel worse, so I'm just trying to live life as normal until my appointment in a week's time. I feel so bad when I see that my husband is so upset, but he is there for me, so I am lucky that way.

Anyway, I have rambled on enough, but have appreciated the opportunity to unload this on people who understand what I am going through. Good luck to all of us!

  • Hi Wakeylass, I know that walking is difficult for you - but I also found comfort in just getting out of the house - meeting a friend for coffee - a change of scene going for a drive - or having someone around to take my mind off things. The fact is that everyone else’s life just keeps on turning and you go into the cancer bubble world - lots of appointments, bloods and treatments. As you say you just have to do what you are told and try to stay positive. When I told my adult children - who were all living far away  - I just kept telling them I would be fine - but I was probably convincing myself as well. 
    Look after yourself - stay strong. Xx

  • Thanks for your valuable advice, Lulu65. I am lucky to have a few good friends who will visit me or I can visit to give me some sanity! My husband would also love me to join him walking our dog in local beauty spots. I have just bought a rollator with seat to help me to walk further, so no excuses!

    I hope that the power of positive thought is working for you. I intend to stay positive whenever possible, and keep up with everyone else's lives, getting out of that cancer bubble you talk about x

  • Hi Wakey Lass,

    The most important thing is to stay positive! Cancer treatment is incredibly advanced nowadays and oncologists aim at not only treating but curing even more advanced breast cancers! I had my mastectomy with immediate reconstruction 13 months ago, followed by 8 sessions of chemotherapy and 15 sessions of radiotherapy, now on Letrozole and Abemaciclib. It sounds scary, but I have to say it is very doable! I didn't have many side effects and even the smallest issue I happened to have during treatment was immediately addressed and dealt with by the nurses who were nothing short of brilliant! You will be in very, very capable hands so please do not worry too much in advance! I also have some kind of arrhythmia (ectopic beats) that is quite unpleasant at times, but I was closely monitored as you will be. Stay strong snd positive, you will be fine! Fingers crossed everything goes well with your surgery and the very best of luck with your treatment! Big hug,

    Lana xx

  • Thanks, Lana. Your message has cheered me up with its positivity. It's good to hear that you are getting on well following your treatment, and gives me more hope for my journey ahead. I am used to taking lots of tablets for my heart and other conditions, so an extra couple would not be a problem!

    I am determined not to let cancer define me, and to live my life as normally as possible during my treatment. I will do my best to maintain a positive attitude and keep a sense of humour. All the very best to you xx 

  • Hi Wakey Lass

    I am so sorry to hear that you are passing through this too.  I don't have much advice to give because I'm also new to this experience.  My mum has just been diagnosed with breast cancer this week and is waiting to see the surgeon on Friday.  Although I'm a doctor myself and have given this news before it is completely different when it is the other way round.  It does feel like a big shock and everything seems so surreal.  It's the last thing I think about before I sleep and the first thing I think about when I wake up.  So however you are feeling, it is normal and you are not alone. 

    Try not to think too much about the future and take it day by day.  Plans and treatments change as results come in which makes all this uncertainty harder.

    I really hope all goes well with your treatment and that things settle down for you.

    Billywig

  • I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this with your mum, Billywig. Under the circumstances, I appreciate you taking the time to provide encouragement for me. At the moment, while I am still waiting for my treatment plan, the uncertainty is driving me nuts! I like to know what I am doing when, and hate everything being up in the air, and not being able to commit to future activities. However, the very important thing for me and your mum is that we get our treatment and recover fully, and this is our priority. If life has to go on hold for a while, it will be worth it to be free from this awful disease. Best wishes to you and your mum x