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i was diagnosed with stage 2 BC in April,    2 weeks ago I had DIEP surgery and lymph node removal.  I’m healing well and waiting for the treatment plan for chemo and radiotherapy.  TBH I’m still in shock as I’ve always been very fit and athletic, I found a lump under my arm quite by chance, the tiny lumps in my breast grew quickly between biopsy and surgery (4cm) plus there were 9 nodes infected.  I feel very lucky that it was caught so fast but am now struggling to deal with the aftermath of such extensive surgery, I have a scar hip to hip which is doing well but my reconstructed breast/ armpit and new belly button are all uncomfortable and I feel I’ll never get back to my pre surgery fitness.  I’ve come to the forum to seek out advice and support x

  • Hi Skategirl

    Welcome to the forum and I am sorry to hear that you were diagnosed with breast cancer. What you are feeling is perfectly natural as you’ve been through major surgery. It may not seem like it now but things will get better, you need time to recover so don’t be too hard on yourself. I find when I’m struggling that taking things a day at a time helps

    Wishing you the best of with your treatment.

    Best wishes


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  • Hi sorry to hear you have been through so much with surgery. I had surgery 2 weeks ago but not as extensive as you.

    Please take your time to heal that was major surgery. It will take your body and mind weeks to heal.

    Be kind to yourself, your fitness will return when you have beaten this horrid disease.

    The fact that you were fit will help you to heal at a steady rate.

    Good luck and let others help you xx

  • Hi Skatergirl,

    I had a lumpectomy just over two months ago and two lymph nodes removed. It is a shock when you are told and I know your is somewhat different to mine, but  it is important you take a bit of time to let it register and sink in.

    You have made the first big step by finding the Macmillan site, also do visit your nearest Macmillan centre, a list is on here, or ring them on 0808 808 0000, they are superbly helpful and give you lots of great info, do walks, talks and lots more. Please also get a good support structure in place, family, friends, good work colleagues, I’ve lived on my own for nigh on forty years, but realised you can’t do this on your own. I also go for a short walk every day (British weather permitting) you can only do this and a little exercise when you are ready, also I do a daily diary, this is mega helpful, as it gets everything off your chest and out of your system. It is important during the day to keep yourself occupied, hobbies, interests etc., it stops you from dwelling on what is going on. You may also find it beneficial to listen to a meditation podcast, they really help you to relax especially when you are trying to get to sleep. I use one called ‘Go Gently’ by Christine Elizabeth Smith, it does a lot for me.

    I know it’s hard sometimes, but try and keep as positive as you possibly can, have positive people around you and dump the negativity, above all, be kind to yourself, we all go through a lot during our treatment and our bodies take quite a knock - I promise you, you will get through this and in time will start to feel like your own self, but do give yourself time. You are never alone and can always come and chat to us shower in here.

    Take care and big