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Hi, I’m 40 years old and I’ve just been diagnosed with breast cancer after finding a lump. I’ve been told I’ve got grade 3 HER2 positive cancer and will first need a course of chemotherapy before having surgery to try to shrink the cancer. I will also need radiotherapy following surgery. I’ve been referred to Oncology so I’m just waiting for an appointment to discuss when my treatment will start. It’s all come as a complete shock and don’t think it’s sunk in yet

  • Hi Chibs,

    I had a lumpectomy nearly two months ago and two lymph nodes removed. It is a shock when you are told and it is important you take a bit of time to let it register and sink in. I know yours is slightly different to mine and I’m sorry to hear you are going through this.

    You have made the first big step by finding the Macmillan site, also do visit your nearest Macmillan centre, a list is on here, or ring them on 0808 808 0000, they are superbly helpful and give you lots of great info, do walks, talks and lots more. Please also get a good support structure in place, family, friends, good work colleagues, I’ve lived on my own for nigh on forty years, but realised you can’t do this on your own. I also go for a short walk every day (British weather permitting) and do a daily diary, this is mega helpful, as it gets everything off your chest and out of your system. It is important during the day to keep yourself occupied, hobbies, interests etc.,it stops you from dwelling on what is going on. You ay also find it beneficial to listen to a meditation podcast, they really help you to relax especially when you are trying to get to sleep. I use one called ‘Go Gently’ by Christine Elizabeth Smith, it does a lot for me.

    I start my radiotherapy next week, so fingers crossed that it all goes well, but in the meantime will keep concentrating on my hobbies to keep my mind off of it,

    I know it’s hard sometimes, but try and keep as positive as you possibly can, have positive people around you and dump the negativity, above all, be kind to yourself - I promise you, you will get through this. You are never alone and can always come and chat to us shower in here.

    Take care and big

  • Hi. I’m sorry you’ve had this diagnosis. It is very shocking and it takes time to process it. I’ve found it helpful to stay positive even though there’s bad days I have. It helps to have people to support you either friends or family. Not sure if you have a partner. Also try and keep busy during this waiting period. Do some nice things. X

  • Thank you kindly, it's scary and I'm still in a bit of shock to be honest, but there is only one way to go and that is forward.