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Hi and welcome to the forum.  I was diagnosed beginning of July too, had lumpectomy and sentinel node biopsy beginning of August.  Waited 4 weeks for results,  Nodes were all clear but not clear enough margins.  Just had 2nd lumpectomy this week, so awaiting results again.  Told 2-3 weeks at least.  It’s all a waiting game unfortunately.  It does depend on the results and as you say size of lump etc.  I was lucky to not have to have chemo, but not sure about radiotherapy yet.  Mine was from routine mammogram.  I had call backs before, but all was ok, so yes, a bit of shock this time.  But I have accepted it now and just want to get through the treatments and hopefully get the all clear.  I wish you all the best for your results and any further treatments.  Take care x

Thank you for your message. Apologies for the late response - still working my way around the forum! Sounds like you are one step ahead of me. I have heard of second and third ops so my eyes are open to the fact that this may happen. It certainly isn't the clear cut, quick process I thought it would be so that is the naivety pumped out of me! I just struggle with this idea that I have to now become 'a lady of leisure' for a minimum of two weeks and to do absolutely NOTHING. We have an autistic child and to do nothing is not optional. Especially, when this morning she threw a load of Rice Cakes around the living room in a meltdown and they all broke up on impact. I had to clean this up using the said mop and Hoover that I am not allowed to use or the dog would have eaten them and become poorly. She still needs me as a Mum so this ideal of resting is just not realistic. I wonder how others cope with home life being a little tricky and not conducive with resting. Hope you go on with your treatment well. All the best xx

Hello and welcome x similar situation to myself. I found a lump and following fast track diagnosed with DCIS hormone positive and HER2 neg. Lumpectomy completed a week ago and today feel liberated! Able to remove dressings and stockings and first shower! After reading posts on this site I am now taking it day by day and today is going to be a good day, as I actually feel better following a shower (the things we take for granted mean so much now). I’m not sure what the results will bring but I can’t change it and I know it’s for the best whatever they decide for me. From how I felt Monday to today is crazy 2 days ago I was at my very lowest but I refuse to go back there! Especially now we have a contact group where we can all speak openly and help each other through the day x x x 

No problem.  It does take time to work your way around the forum.  Glad you joined though.  It helps to be able to talk to others who understand what you are going through, it’s not an easy time for any of us.  I do understand about trying to rest.  I have two autistics sons, though adults now, I don’t know how I would have coped if this had happened when they were younger.  I suppose in the end you just have to cope, we do not have a lot of choice do we.  Do you have family or friends around who can help out a bit more for a while?  My hubby has been so supportive and will do housework, cook etc.  We live a long way from our family so I don’t know what I would have done without him.  I hope you can cope and try to rest as best you can.  Hope your treatment goes well and your results are good.  Please let me know how it all goes.   Take care x

The waiting is definitely the worst time.  Your mind goes round and round with outcomes and what you imagine will happen.  It was great to get the surgeries done though and not as bad I had imagined.  Isn’t it great to get the dressings, stockings off and be able to shower etc.  Coming on here really helps.  I wish you well with your results and any further treatments.  Hugs xx

1. Our family is small but my Mum also has Cancer so that also limits the help as remaining few are split between the two of us!.  I just need to cope but it is so hard when you have Macmillan saying you must rest and a child that demands the opposite due to the nature of her condition. My partner has taken on my role and he was chatting with his friend the other day who had recently lost his wife under non cancer circumstances and now has to do everything at home that he never did before for him and his child and how hard it was. They both admitted in their manly ways that it had opened their eyes to how much we do as women in the home! There may be some good come out of it after all! Thank you and you take care xx