How am I supposed to feel?

1. Hi L2707 welcome to the forum and I am so very sorry to hear whst has happened for you and how you are feeling. Its OK to cry as your life has been invaded by an uninvited guest and has turned it upside down. It is such early days for you and it is slso very  overwhelming but please know that you are not alone and never will be as we are all here for you. Define 'normal, ? There is no normal in this situation you just take each day as it comes. You may feel a bit better once you have a plan in place for you but it's not in anyway easy what has happened but it us doable and we will support you in any way that we can.Meantime I'm sending you some huge big hugs for now. Xxxxx

It’s still very early to try to adjust, if you don’t even have a treatment plan you don’t even know quite what it is you’re trying to adjust to.

As granny59 says, there isn’t a normal, we all react differently. I found the uncertainty of the early days very challenging. Just hang in there, make use of any support you feel you need when you feel you need it (the forums, your breast care nurse etc). Don’t worry about crying, your going through a tremendous upheaval, just congratulate yourself for getting through each day.

Sending hugs

you are normal, as i said in another thread with different words. this is a plot twist that we don't want, the people we were before are no longer here, there is before this us, and now us. we need to adjust to the new normal, just remember you are still you and life will upright again soon. hugs

when we have a plan and a map of what next w become less rudderless hugs

Hi. Your use of the word rudderless is spot on. The diagnosis shifts all our reference points and it is so upsetting and disturbing.  You are not alone and I hope that knowing this helps a little. Everyone seems to find their own way through, but there seem to be some common threads such as doing things which bring you some contentment, even if that can’t stretch to joy at the moment.  You can do this xx

Hi L2707

Welcome to the forum and sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with breast  cancer.  Take things a day at a time and shout and scream if you need to.

Wishing you the best of luck with whatever treatment your medical team puts you on.

Best wishes

Daisy53

This is absolutely normal! I felt exactly the same after I received my diagnosis on 20th June 2023. Now I am post single mastectomy with immediate DIEP reconstruction which I had on 10th July and almost a week into my (so dreaded!) AC/T chemotherapy. Please know that regardless of how you are feeling right now, things will definitely get better over the next few weeks. Once you know what exactly you are dealing with, you'll get back to some kind of normal. It's a long process and to me personally one of the most unpleasant and difficult things I've ever had to deal with in my whole life, but I feel that trying to stay positive does help a lot! Stay strong and positive, you are not alone! Sending you love! XX 

Hi there, welcome to the group, I’m glad that you found us and hope you'll find good support from the lovely people here. It's a great place to ask any questions nothing is too random) or just to simply share or have a rant.   I found the time between getting the diagnosis and getting a treatment plan to be the most difficult, so I do think you're in this really tough stage right now.

I saw you mentioned you're not sure about telling people. This is a very individual decision, some choose to keep things private, others are very open, many in between.  I thought perhaps this information from Macmillan might help Telling people about cancer as it gives some hints and tips.

What you're feeling is not unusual, as others have said, just hang in there and take it a day at a time. Best wishes 

Hi, it’s completely normal, I was diagnosed on Mothers Day this year and I’m now 3 treatments away from finishing. I cried on the evening after my official diagnosis, then got it together as I had a plan to follow. I’ve had the odd wobbly moment but have a great support network. 

To be honest I’ve cried more in the last evening and I’m nearly done- the call from the radiology department set me off telling me do this do that this might make it sore - I was very tired my kids were out late and needed picking up and it just got to me.  Everyone is different and everything is normal. You will do fine, take each day as it comes xxx

Hope you're doing ok this morning and getting your head around the radiotherapy, best wishes