Ongoing treatment, finding it hard to cope.

Hey Betty11  sorry to hear you’re struggling. I’ve found some peoples reactions the hardest to take. My sister has made no effort which has been quite upsetting, it shouldn’t be like that!  
I was also diagnosed in July but had my op first and am now 1/2 way through chemo. I had a lumpectomy and honestly, that was a breeze compared to chemo! If that’s what you end up having it’s a day surgery and I only took the week off work and wasn’t in that much pain at all. You might find that’s the east part of the journey. Just make sure you rely on your friends, have someone come round every day so you’re not alone. Hope you feel in a better place soon and good luck with the next stage xx 

Thank you for this. I hope things go well for you x

My Mother wouldn't have understood, she had Alzheimer's and the effect of the war that made her like an orphan betw 7 and 14 yrs. People our own age are better and esp those who have been through it. Some people just don't understand the effect of a cancer diagnosis. Friends can be better than family. I have 2 brothers, one I can't talk to and one who has had surgery for cancer and does get it. The nasty one was horrible to me when my Mother was dying, accusatory, he was very into money. 

Anyway my husband's family are much better, my step kids I have know for 38 yrs. Those who love you will know what to say or people in this group. It's hard enough isn't it, self care, pamper yourself maybe. I'm just starting gentle massage on my site areas. I never had time for this before. Xxx

Thank you for sharing and your suggestions. Hope all goes well for you x

Hi Betty11

Welcome to the forum and sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with breast cancer.

If you have a look at the support page on this website you will find plenty of support from Macmillan, or alternatively you can ring the support line on 0808 808 00 00.

Wishing you the best of luck with your operation at the end of January.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Hi Betty, I’m sorry to hear that you are finding it hard to cope. However, I have been there too, so understand a little. This is my second Christmas post- primary treatment, and thankfully I am in a better place than I was last year, so perhaps the passage of time does help. Like you, I had chemotherapy first, in my case for 5 months. I had a mastectomy and axillary clearance one week after my last chemo cycle, and then 15 sessions of radiotherapy. I finished this in September 2021, and started Anastrazole and bisphosphonate. I can honestly say that I can’t remember anything about last Christmas, and yet I normally have an excellent memory. Clearly, I was not in a good place, and was possibly simply functioning. Like you, I don’t have a partner, but also no mum or sister. I do have very good friends though. I know what you mean about going on half pay, and as @Daisy53 says, it would be worthwhile you contacting MacMillan. They helped me immensely with employment and financial advice. 
I am at the moment listening to a play on the radio, and will make myself a nice cuppa in a moment, with a mince pie and slice of a Christmas cake, having been out for a nature walk an hour ago. These ‘little things’ have become more important to me since my diagnosis, and hopefully you might your ‘little things’ too. Xx