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Hello,

I am 27 year old mum of 1, recently engaged and had my world turned upside down this week when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. ER and PR positive but awaiting news on HER2 result plus MRI. Will have final details this coming Wednesday with treatment plan but been told it’s likely chemo radio and surgery but unsure of the order of treatment.

I am trying to keep a positive attitude and ready to get this process going and get back to life with my little one and wedding planning asap but can’t help but worry about the unknowns. I have been told that help with fertility in terms of egg retrieval isn’t an option as I already have a child and that pregnancy in the future may be too risky anyway. Just find I am grieving things I wasn’t even aware I wanted but now that it may be taken from me without my choice (same with my hair!!) it just all feels so much at once.

I know life is way more important and I am very lucky to have what I have but just wondered if anyone had any words of advice or encouragement about making it through these next steps and coping mechanisms.

thank you for any help and sending everyone lots of love and luck with your own journeys x

Aquariusly over 2 years ago

Hi. You're so brave in opening up your fears and worries. Recently diagnosed myself I've found the information and questions overwhelming. I'm not in same situation as I'm 20 years older than you but in my mind I've been thinking about my priorities and what I want my focus to be. Number 1, stay alive (obvs I know!), 2 give my body and soul what it needs, 3 get back to better health so I can be a good mum/wife/daughter etc etc.

If you feel youre being rushed into decisions about your future ask for time and space to make sure you've got all the info and hav e explored all options, ask for 2nd opinions and to speak to specialists etc. Breast surgeons are not fertility specialists...be strong to advocate and push for the answers you need to make informed decisions. Stay strong x

las5995 over 2 years ago in reply to Aquariusly

Hello Aquariusly and thank you for your extremely kind message.

It’s so nice to hear other people find this whole thing overwhelming too, I feel like as humans we become self conscious we are worrying too much or being too much hassle when we are just feeling exactly how we should and can feel!

Thank you for the advice, it’s so helpful and I definitely am going to ask more questions so I know going into treatment I am confident in the decisions made and hopefully gives me some peace of mind.

I hope you are okay and sorry to hear of your diagnosis. I am sure you will smash this process and get back to being a fab mum wife and daughter! Always here if you want too talk, us newbies have each other. Sending you and yours lots of love and positive wishes x

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