New here and anxious

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Hello all

Few days ago went to the breast clinic with my 28yr old daughter following gp referral for breast lump. Gp said she wasn’t worried and we weren’t! From the moment of ultrasound the atmosphere completely changed barely a minute into it she looked at nurse and said biopsy needed. They did that and put a clip in then she had mammogram. I could see it up in the screen big white blob. I asked does it look suspicious they said yes but her lymph glands look okay. Then we were shoved into a quiet room with a specialist nurse who said did we have any questions. We did but were so in shock my daughter said let’s just get out of here. It was ditto to a t of my own experience 18yrs ago for lobular bc. This is different it’s one of my babies! Now I’m think I’ve passed it into her. No one ever spoke to me about genetic testing. Her paternal grandmother has had bc too. Now we are on the agonising wait till 27th July for results. I’m beside myself with worry for her she’s so young. 

  • Hi  , so sorry to hear that your daughter is having tests for possible cancer. I haven’t been in this situation but can imagine how horribly anxious you must feel, especially in the light of your own diagnosis 18 years ago. Sending huge hugs to both of you. 
    Re whether you may have passed it on…. I’d say it’s worth asking about genetics testing at the next appointment when hopefully they will know firstly if it’s cancer, and if so what type. Sorry you have this additional fear. 
    There’s a family and carers group here that may also be helpful for you. I don’t know how to post a link but it’s in the list of groups. 
    And just to add that, if your daughter does have cancer, treatments have moved forward hugely in the last 2 decades, and even in the 7 years since my own diagnosis. 
    Sending love and a big virtual hug your way, HFxx

    HappyFeet1 xx
    Don’t be afraid to cry. It will free your mind of sorrowful thoughts. – Hopi