Hi all, I’ve recently (this week) had it confirmed I have breast cancer.

Sounds like far too much all at the same time. The difference is that with cancer, a lot of the control is at the moment in other hands -- the people who decide when surgery is to go ahead, the people who decide what systemic treatment to recommend, that sort of thing. The marriage, on the other hand, is something that is within your control in that it seems your husband wants to reconcilliate and it is up to you now to decide whether or not you think this marriage can/should be salvaged, and then act according to the conclusion you come to. I can se though how it would be tricky to try and think clearly about that while dealing with the cancer diagnosis.

What have you been told so far about your cancer? Did they say what stage and grade it was? Have they outlined the currently proposed treatment plan apart from surgery?

And, tell me a little about your puppy? I am glad you have him/her for company and would love to hear more about this.

Morning, they said I have stage 2, which is early. So im very glad about that. It is about 9cm the lump so l am losing my leftie. They will rebuild at the same time. I don’t need chemo but they talked about radiotherapy and drugs that I can’t remember the name of. My surgery is in 2 weeks time. So it does feel quite a lot in a very short space of time. I don’t think I’ve processed it all yet. I know my prognosis is really good snd I am fortunate to be able to say that, but it still feels very scary.

I have a Portuguese Water Dog, he is amazing! He is my shadow and I love him to bits. He helps me get out of bed and out and about when I’m feeling really low.

That is a lot of soft, wonderful puppy there!  I bet you get your face "kissed" with a very wet tongue too!

Yes, the speed with which they sometimes do things has that effect. It is great that they move fast, but it does put us in a position where so much happens in such a short span of time that a lot of women are sort of, "done before I realised what was happening." 

Processing it is not necessarily a single process. Different parts of it may sort of fall into place or feel "digested" before other parts do, and I think it can happen in sections, so to speak, over time.

More than 15 months from diagnosis I think I am still processing parts of it, although I know I am done processing other parts. It works uniquely for each of us, but it's very common to feel quite overwhelmed right after diagnosis, and especially when everything seems to happen at the same time or very fast.

He really is my day of sunshine and a proper snuggles too. 

it has been so super fast and you are right, that’s great but I haven’t stopped at all and thought about what is actually happening. I think I thin a week I had gone from an NHS appointment to private doing more biopsies, mri, scans and a gene test and then waiting for the results, and now I have the diagnosis and even a date for surgery i have a week to digest and it’s a lot. Im usually a super together person but I fo not feel it at all, I broke down at the traffic lights today because they went red! 

After 15 months how are you going with treatment? 

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After 15 months how are you going with treatment? 

Chemo and immuno are thankfully over now, just need to get one more surgical procedure out of the way, hopefully soon.