Newly diagnosed IBL, HR+ and scared

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Hello everyone.

I am very new to this journey, not even 4 weeks yet! And wow what a rollercoaster already.

I found a lump in my right breast and went to my Gp on 13th December, was seen by the breast clinic on the 21st Dec (mammograms x 3, ultrasound, biopsies, markers placed etc). Then on Thursday (6th Jan) I was told I have invasive Lobular cancer. I have had my bloods taken and awaiting MRI. They believe it’s grade 2 with no signs in my lymph nodes currently (they checked with the ultrasound when they took my biopsy) though I have seen on other forums this can change once it’s checked on the MRI.

This diagnosis like I’m sure most people have felt, has completely floored me! I’ve just turned 43, with no family history of breast/ovarian cancer. So I never expected this. I’ve since found out that prostate cancer can be a family history also and 3 of my male family members have had this so I’m now having to complete a family history questionnaire to see if I need genetic testing. This petrifies me as I have an adult daughter who has 2 baby girls herself now. I hope and pray I haven’t passed this to any of them! 

The reason I’ve come on here is because I don’t know anyone who has been through breast cancer that I can talk to and even though I have an amazing supportive family, I feel very alone, overwhelmed & scared.
I’d love to find someone to chat to that is currently going through or already been through this Aswell. Ideally the same type if possible, To swap info, stories and support. 

it’s definitely not the group anyone wants to be a part of but I’m very much a positive person, so as I’m now a part of it, it would be good to make some friends who understands what you are going through and can talk openly about it with. I really don’t want to burden my family with  anything more than they need to deal with. 

Thanks 

Leanne Blush

  • Hi Leanne just replying to get you bumped back to the start in the hope you will get relevant answers.  Lov from Ann

  • Hi Leanne

    I was diagnosed with invasive lobular breast cancer in September. In the whirlwind of tests that followed it was discovered that it was in my lymph nodes so I had a wide local excision with 3 lymph nodes removed. 

    I’m due to have radiotherapy but not chemo as I had Oncotype testing which is genetic testing of the cancer, which determined that chemo wouldn’t be beneficial. 

    I’m a bit older than you (55) but my first thought was for my granddaughters. I thought there was no family history of BC but I did find that my great grandmother died with it (this was in the 70’s and she was 102 and declined treatment).

    This is a brilliant site for support. There will be others who experience the same as you. Any questions ask away. 

    Rachel

  • Hi Leanne. I was diagnosed on 17 Nov, so just a few weeks earlier than you. Mine was a different type - invasive mucinous carcinoma. Who knew there were so many different ones!? I'm 47, also with no family history, and like you was completely floored when I found my lump. All the initial tests and appointments are so overwhelming, and all consuming.

    I had a mastectomy with immediate implant reconstruction on 20 Dec. So tomorrow I will be 3 weeks post op. 

    Things definitely improve once you start on your treatment plan and somehow we find a strength within us that we didn't know existed before.

    I just wanted to say Hi and wish you well. Everyone said to me, take one day at a time. It's so very hard to do, but otherwise you can just worry yourself silly xx

  • Hi Leanne.

    I was diagnosed in October with a type of ductal cancer in situ. It was quite a large lump  (4cm) which was thought to be slow growing and non-invasive. 

    I had cysts for years which on previous mammograms hadn't been of concern, so the October result was a bit of a shock. 

    I had a mammoplasty in December and 4 sentinel nodes removed for checking. 

    No cancer was found in my nodes but as the lump was estrogen positive I'm on letrozole for 5 years. I have my oncologist appointment in two weeks to see what's next

    Asking questions on this forum and the breast cancer nurses helped when I was imagining all kinds of outcomes. As I got more info and started to see a path through this, I started to feel better. 

    Take care  xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Angua1

    thank you for replying thank you for replying. I’m so sorry that you are going through this aswell. 
    is it a good thing about the oncotype? I’ve not heard of this yet so please excuse my ignorance 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Pangles

    Thank you so much for your reply also, I really didn’t realise there was so many types!! I’ll have to looK your type up. I do hope it’s not to much of a rough ride for any of us. It is really scary although I’m putting on a very brave face to everyone around me. I am trying to take it one day at a time. Thinking to far ahead just increase my anxiety. I think I’ll feel a little better once I’ve had the op and got it out of my body. Does that make sense? I know there’s plenty to follow after but that’s my focus at the minute. I don’t have a date yet. I’m waiting on my mri scan first 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Daiquiri

    Reading all of your stories breaks my heart that we are all going through this. It’s so unfair isn’t it? As awful as it is, just hearing from you ladies and knowing I’m not alone does help. So thank you for replying. 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to farmerann

    thank you 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I’m currently struggling with what to do surgery wise. 
    my consultant is suggesting lumpectomy might be a good idea, but I feel like asking them to take both breasts. I’m so scared of recurrence or it not being removed fully. Maybe I’m being over cautious but I really want the best shot of getting rid of this. What do you ladies think? 

  • I have definitely felt a huge sense of relief since the op and am sure you will too. I spent so much time considering what I thought were my options for surgery, but when it came to discussing it with my consultant it quickly came down to one best option.

    I honestly have no idea if they would take both breasts if only one is affected??

    My initial recommended treatment plan was for lumpectomy + radiotherapy, but following my MRI this changed to mastectomy + radiotherapy and possibly chemo (depending on the onco score).

    • Now I know from my pathology report that as well as a 2.4cm invasive tumour I also has 10.7cm of DCIS! This was not picked up from any of the tests, so for me, mastectomy was 100% the right action. I have read how plenty of others only need a lumpectomy though.. x