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FormerMember over 3 years ago

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Wasn’t quite sure what to write, but here goes. After having a routine mammogram back in October I have now had it confirmed that I have breast cancer. I am waiting for results of biopsy which I finally had yesterday but it seems there is a problem with this because the cancer is so deep. Apparently on my chest wall as well. I am trying to be positive, but in truth I’m scared.. I asked the breast nurse not to beat around the bush and tell me worst case, and she informs me I will most probably need surgery and chemo. I’m scared of not being able to work as I’m a single mum with an autistic son and need to work to make ends meet. I’m also self employed and have no insurances to cover me if I get sick. I have always been fit and healthy, I turn 55 just b4 Christmas. All my friends think I’m brave and upbeat and optimistic but right now I don’t feel it. I am sure I should be asking a tonne of questions but everything seems a blur. I am not sure what support is on offer here as I only joined last night. Any positive comments would be very welcome. Thank you

MickeyM over 3 years ago

Hi Niftyjiffy, Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. It’s such a shock and hard to get your head around - switching from emotional to practical. I know what you mean about friends thinking you are brave, their intentions are good, but sometimes they say things that make you feel worse. We can’t be strong all the time through this cancer journey, we need to ride the emotions of the rollercoaster and be supported.

I expect you are worrying about your son also. I have an autistic son also, although he is now an adult, telling him about the cancer was difficult.

the answer to your question about support, is pretty much whatever you need. MacMillan can advise you on the financial side. Emotionally this forum can offer as much or as little support as you want - just post.

Hope that helped a little. Positively, I’m due for surgery next Tuesday and Im managing my fears and can’t wait to get rid of the cancer.

Virtual hugs Mickey

FormerMember over 3 years ago in reply to MickeyM

Hi mickey

thank you so much for your words and at an equally difficult time for you as well. I will keep my fingers crossed for you with surgery. I can imagine you must be so worried but here’s hoping you get rid of cancer once and for all. This journey we take is so different for everyone snd yet very similar and hopefully we all will come out the other side much stronger and better for it.

sending you virtual hugs too x

MickeyM over 3 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Hi again Niftyjiffy,

Thank you also, I will keep my fingers crossed for you too. Being scared is part of this journey, however different our paths on it may be. It’s surprising though how resilient we can be, but I really think the support is key to that to give you those boosts when you need them.

Let us know how you get on if you feel up to it.

more virtual hugs Mickey x ️

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