Diagnosed just yesterday

Hi Samma, really sorry to hear about your BC but you are in the right place for support and advice, this site is full of amazing women happy to share their experiences with you.  The waiting is the hardest part, once you have your treatment plan it gives you something to concentrate on, hopefully you will not have to wait for too long.  We have all been where you are now, you are not alone.  love from Ann

Hi Samma. I know it’s hard.  I’ve become a single mum this year too so my first thought was ‘I can’t leave my kids with no parent’. I’m older than you but my kids are only 11 & 9.  I think it’s just waves and bringing yourself back to practical things helps - which if you have a busy life you can’t help doing! 

ive had waves of calm, waves of tears, waves of it’s not fair.  I’m ten days after my mastectomy and pain is worse today so feeling less resilient because I didn’t sleep well.  

my main tips would be ask for help, tell people what you need.  Read the forum but remember we are all different.  Once you know what you’re dealing with and what the next steps are, you’ll feel calmer -

well I did.  I also had a lot if nerves about telling my kids.  They actually thought it was funny because boobs just are at that age.  

just take it a day at a time xx

How are you now Haveacuppa

C x

Hey Sam.

Sorry you find yourself here...diagnosis day was such a struggle for me. It's just like the walls come crumbling down and I could not see the light. But after a couple of weeks it started to sink in and everything was appointment to appointment, then results then decision making. So, we are here! Once you have made some decisions, keep moving forward in your path to recovery.

You will get loads of support here. With everyone here going through the same battle as you. Its really scary situation...rely on us for support, trust your medical team and ask friends family for help when you are going through this process. You need all the help u can get for sure. I know as single mum myself 5 yrs ago when my husband passed away, I had only me to rely on. But now it's a steep learning curve. 

We will hold your hand here (although virtually!) Take care.

C x

I heard them say it ,but it was was if the information wasn't for me.I don't feel like it real I've been busy sorting the girls out after telling them tonight the news.My youngest cried a while and says she will be my nurse,Hope my oldest understands the severity of it and thinks I will get to sick to get better.All I can do is keep her motivated to stay positive and be honest with her.I will no more the 29/11 when I see the oncologist for the treatment plan . Thank you for you kind words x

Hi Samma, sorry to have to meet you on here, but I have found it a great place to learn from others.  I also truly believe in positivity, I hope this helps you through the good and bad days.  I also found it toughest when I was first diagnosed until I had a treatment plan, then at least I knew what I was dealing with.  Best of luck x

It doesn't seem real ,I know it's happening and understand it all.Even when I was told it's like I heard it  but I was do calm , maybe it's the shock

 I'm doing alright I think  still in shock ,it hasn't sunk in I'm on autopilot.Tellimg my girls was the hardest thing ever.I find out more next week and see the oncologist on the 29/11 I just want the treatment to start .worried the longer it takes the worse it will become x

Waiting and worrying it's getting worse is always hard I think, but my understanding is that these things grow slowly.  If you want to check out my story, I've been keeping this blog, One Life Live It as it helped me to write things down.  Keeping busy between now and 29th will be a challenge I guess x

Hi, sorry to hear about your BC diagnosis.  I was diagnosed 16th September and still I don't think it has sunk in properly.  The waiting in between appointments is the worst but everyone in this group are amazing and will get you through it x