Chemotherapy

Hello Nicky I really feel for you.  This bloody awful disease has so many effects not just physical but mental and emotional too I really don’t know how we get through so not surprised you’re upset.  It’s not fair your partners daughter brings her ill children round to your house when you are having chemo.  Can you try having another talk with him as I’d like to think he’d see it’s not just unreasonable but dangerous to your health.
I haven’t started chemo yet but I imagine it’s not going to be easy.  I’ve heard about the weight loss though and I expect it’s quite normal to feel low, it’s a lot to go through.
This is the time to be selfish! Think about yourself, have treats, soak in the bath whatever it takes just to try and lift your spirits right now.  Try having a chat with your GP too or ring the Macmillan helpline for support they are available at weekends too.   I used them quite a lot initially and now use their telephone buddy service which has been really helpful. They match you up with someone who has been through cancer and knows how it feels xx

Hi Nicky  ,  I would have a rule while on chemotherapy no visitors will be received into the home. People may ring bring me food to the door and stop by for a garden chat. You are unwell we are in a pandemic put your self first facetime and what's app .  When you feel stronger meet friends and family in the park for a lovely walk and coffee. If your friends are not supporting you then , get new friends when you better cut any friends that are not supporting you  let them go they will only drag you down.  It's common to have to do that lots of us find out which friends are strong enough for us the others must go. When you are  better making new friends will be  easy  . Ring your treatment line, if you haven't done that already,  they have a duty to look after you they gave you the drugs  .They must ensure you are well 

Take care 

Jayne X 

Hi Nicky69 

I hope you find the strength to take some of the very good advice about setting your boundaries.  

If your partner will not stick up for you, you need to do it for yourself. 

Good luck and use this forum to off load.  

xxx

Hi thank you for replying to me yes is a horrible disease and nobody seems to understand

my friends have been fantastic to be fair its my family that havent really supported me i never see them unless i go there and at the moment dont feel too safe to drive. I am getting worried about my lack of appetite and not wanting to drink it seems to have lasted alot longer this time around i feel so weak and feel im missing all the vitamins and nutrients that i need.

I start my 2nd regime next week 3 cycles of docetaxel which i am petrified of having have you any hints of what i can do please.x

Nicky you've just said that you go to them. Nip that in the bud right away, they probably think your OK because you do go to them. You are not fit to drive, your tired and your body needs to get well without stress..and as another lady said we are in a pandemic, so you've got to tell your partners daughter that your not fit at the minute to look after children, you need to put yourself first and if they don't like it then tough, it's not them that need the rest to get better. I hope you get sorted and I'm sure your friends will keep you right..take care. Xx

Completely agree with what everyone has said, you are not fit to look after others, you are barely able to look after yourself just now. On top of that, you cannot afford to get ill as you are not up to fighting that - you could get very seriously ill or have delays to treatment.

I found doceaxel harder but a lot of women find it the other way around, so you may be over the worst of it. I found I my appetite was worse on EC, I felt quite nauseous . My appetite came back on docetaxel - but everything tasted pretty horrible!

I wanted to say that I lived off soups - a really good way of getting both nutrients and liquid into you and they are easy to eat. Your body needs fuel to recover and you need to keep hydrated to flush all those toxins out as they are harsh on your liver and kidneys.

If you can possibly manage it, just try and sip water all day. I found I hated the taste of water through chemo and had to buy ribena to put in it! Anything to get you drinking.

Chemo is really tough but you will get through this, Put yourself first, try and figure out a way to look after yourself better that you can manage, and tell your family how serious this is.

Thank u for replying

why did u find the docetaxel harder in which way as heard so many horror stories

i wil definitely try soups and more liquid food I have started putting Ribera in my water aswell I just have to force it down

what I find the hardest is there is no one to talk to who actually understands how I’m feeling x

Hi Nicky I haven’t started chemo yet (probably early December) but I know there’s also a chemo thread on here which could be useful to look at fir tips.   I’ve also been making soups and just bought a smoothie maker.  I’ve been experimenting with trying to get veg into them (you can’t really tell if you don’t go too mad) and wondered if you could stomach sips of either of these throughout the day.  Also you could try Fortisips too xx