Hello

Hi  so very sorry to hear this. I am sure the ladies on this group will be helpful and supportive but I wanted to let you know that there is also a chat group for friends and family, which you can find here Family and Friends Forum.

My own experience of being newly diagnosed was that I needed a lot of support from others in the early days of diagnosis and whilst there was much uncertainty. Once I had my treatment plan, I was very much more “back to normal” in terms of my own emotional health.  

Perhaps in the meantime there are others you can turn to, and of course the chat groups on here I am sure will be a support for you.  

Hi Irishgirl16 sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Thank you for replying to my message. My relative is so positive and acts as though nothing is wrong and that they don't need support. I have obviously offered my support anyway. 

I think if I have an advice for those supporting someone going through a cancer journey is first and foremost be understanding and patient. As someone who has been diagnosed for, I have gone through so many emotions, uncertainties, and overwhelmed about all the diagnosis, treatment and what to do.

You need to just be guided by the relative now. Plenty of practical stuff you can help. Accompany her to appointments, help with housework, buy some healing stuff like beanie hats or cook for them. Eg my sis sent me food parcels and spoke to me on phone so much. I know I can be myself talking to her about my fears and worries with no judgement or pressure. My partner has stepped up with cooking and cleaning & came to some appointments. My inlaws give good advice and offer help with school runs when I cannot.  My colleagues bought me aromatherapy items, my client bought be flowers. Just a few wonderful things to show support and pick me up when I am low. You also know you can count on them, and I am not alone to fight this. 

This forum has been a lifeline and the ladies here I am so grateful for their advice so generously given to help make me less scared and anxious.

Be calm and understanding. Ppl have different ways of dealing with the unexpected result.

C x