Newly diagnosed

Hi, I think honestly is always the best policy as you wouldn’t want them to fine out from someone else! My dad is 83 and I had to have that big C conversation with him- he has wanted to try and support me. This is the 2nd time he has had to deal with his daughters having breast cancer as my younger sister when through the same thing 14 years ago! As you said it will be very obvious if your not very well with chemotherapy etc. It’s a difficult call and very personal to each individual. Good luck xx

So sorry you've joined this "club". 

You asked a few questions which I hope that others will be able to answer too.  I had to wait for the multi-disciplinary team (MDT) to meet after my scans / biopsies and then the Consultant Surgeon talked to me separately about was going to happen next.  But it might be different in different hospitals.  Your Breast Care nurses would be able to let you know what to expect if you phoned them up in advance.

I have a very frail father who was 89 at the time of my diagnosis and I waited to tell him about what was happening after I had some clarity about my treatment pathway.  I had to frame it as positively as I could (talking about advances in medical science is now and how excellent breast cancer treatment has become) as he's a great worrier.  My mother has late stages of dementia (it is hard to know if she recognises me) and I did not talk to her about it at all. 

Wishing you all the best with your appointment on 29th. x

Thanks for that. You have given me the confidence to go for it tomorrow! All the best

Thanks, I'm feeling a little less daunted knowong others have similar ideas to me on this issue. Good luck to you on your path, too. 

Thanks and best of luck to you, too! 

Hi Jasa I'm sorry you find yourself here. 

It sounds like an early cancer if your mum is strong as you say I would not keep the information from her as she will be tremendous support for you.  The older generation are so stolic and have strength that we have not developed yet. It sounds as if you have a good medical team around you . I am not sure when they give you results I have had my surgery but have not seen an oncologist yet and was diagnosed at the end of June!  I'm just waiting for the results of one last test and then hopefully will have an appointment. My died 5 years ago he was 87 he was so strong if something was  so very serious like this but he would worry about little things like his gas bill! So yes tell your mum she will be supportive and a tower of strength for you take care 

Jayne 

Thank you. In fact, not the best place to meet, but what great supportive people I find here. That's very encouraging positive advice you give. I hope your journey goes well.