Diagnosed today

Bless you  Dawnlou this is not it so try not to worry so much.  Breast cancer, even if it has spread to the nodes, is very treatable these days with a very high success rate.

I have read lots of bios on here of women who had spread to the nodes and it hadn't spread anywhere else.  Some had spread to a few and some had spread to lots.  

Even in the unlikely event that there has been spread beyond the nodes it still doesn't mean that it.

Stay positive, stay busy and take it one day at a time.  You are at the hardest part of this journey, the waiting for results and a treatment plan is excruciatingly stressful but you will get through it.  You will feel a lot better once you are given your treatment plan.

Hang in there and keep posting on here and connecting with people.

There is a thread called AWAKE if you find yourself awake at night and you need to connect with someone.  I can't guarantee someone will be on but there often is someone there even in the early hours.

Sending hugs and good wishes x

Thank you so much for your reply , my head has just been racing since the news and at moment I am struggling to see that I will come out of it , I am up and down like w yo yo and constantly bursting into tears when I see my kids or think about them x

That's completely normal Dawnlou I was the same.  Then somebody told me what I told you, that this wasn't the end and that breast cancer is very treatable with very high success rates.  I felt so much better after that but needed daily reassurance for a while.

What also helped was reading people's bios (just click on people's names and if they've posted one you can read it.

It's good if you can post your own when you feel up to it as it helps others and also helps you - just writing it down can be cathartic.

Hello Dawnlou 

This is the very hard time when you just find out and you are consumed with worry about the future . My friend had breast cancer and lymph nodes positive 20 years ago she had all these dark thought's that you have now . She saw her children grow up and now has grandchildren . The most important thing now for you ,me and others on this site  is to start to believe it when the doctors tell us how good treatments are now.

Sometimes the cancer  will have moved from the tumor to lymph nodes and maybe to another part of the body but that's what all these tests are for.

After surgery or sometimes before surgery we will have radiation to kill the cancer cells . And sometimes Chemotherapy which is like a hunter killer submarine it will track down the cancer cells and kill them . It might make us a little unwell whilst it does that but chemo is our friend. The journey will on times be difficult but we can do it. 

We are all doing it together X take care try and get some rest 

Jayne x

Like everyone has said, the not knowing is a really hard part, and when you have more information you will definitely feel much more in control. I broke down all the time at the beginning; I suspect we all did. Often it was hard to put a finger on what I was weeping about - I just felt overwhelmed.  But there is such a good success rate with treating breast cancer.now, hold onto that thought.  And as for me, I feel lucky to have had it diagnosed in 2021 rather than ten years ago, or even a year and a half ago when the lockdowns started. I've been blessed.

I've mentioned this in other posts, so forgive me if you have read it elsewhere, but I have found the following quote most helpful and reminded myself of it when I wasn't feeling too good "You don't need to predict how everything will play out, just master the next step and continue moving in the right direction.".  Hope it helps you too and hope that things turn out okay for you xx

Thank you so much . I had that thought also about it not being when we locked down , I also went on a health kick with eating and exercise when we locked down and lost a bit of weight which it why I think I managed to feel the lump in the end as when you lose weight the breasts obv change in size too  so I feel blessed that I took that route in lockdown and not the eating my way through lockdown route, hope all goes well for you too xx