In the dark

My mom got diagnosed with breast cancer last year which has now turned into a fungating chest wound and needs palatable care dressing it my mother has never discussed her cancer with us and now she has spots on her femur bone and pelvis she just had a op to put a bar in from her hip down I'm currently looking after her but I don't live in the same country so I had to arrange childcare for my daughter she won't speak about what stage what's the plan going forward were so in the dark my mother has always been independent and outgoing and now relys on me to get her to loo and wash her I just really wanna know something about the length of time I have to be here what care should she be expected to get and how to make her comfortable I'm really in the dark with it all I have read stuff on Google but staying away from the horror stories please help