New here.

Also new here - hi! Overwhelmed isn’t the word and joined to get support from people who understand what I’m going through. 

Hi Mel1953 and

Welcome.  Sorry to hear you've got reason to be here.  Yes, it's all very overwhelming but you will both get your head's around it all quite soon, I'm sure.  Certainly a lot to take in

I wish you both well  {{{Hugs}}}

Thanks  never thought I’d be here. It’s only been weeks and I think the initial numbness is fading and replaced with sadness and fear. I’ve cried on and off for 3 days. 

Oh bless you.  I can relate with that, completely.  I was diagnosed jsut 2 days before Christmas 2020 and am still crying !!!  I've had a particularly unfortunate/difficult time and was depressed already, before being told I had Breast Cancer.

I have to say, I'm feeling very much better since starting Radiotherapy but, due to a shoulder injury last year, I'm still lacking much of the range of movement.  I have been repeatedly told that, if I can't get my hands behind my head, I won't be able to have Radiotherapy and will need mastectomy!!!  Yes, it came across in the way of a threat, no compassion apparent and no sign of appreciating how devastated I was to be told that.  I appreciate we need to know what our options are but this was actually bordering (or actual) bullying in the way it came across.  I was also told to get exercising the shoulder!!!  As if I haven't bothered since injury (with significant nerve damage etc too)  I agree it could be down to my perceptions but I really don't feel anyone would appreciate being spoken to like that and, when dealing with a cancer of any sort, every patient must be suffering with an element of stress, eh?  Yes, a complaint is on the way ...

I had several other unfortunate issues regarding they way I was spoken to, again not showing compassion!!!  Not a good experience at all.

I'm sure you haven't experienced such an 'difficult' time as this and certainly hope no one ever does.

You'll definitely feel better as time allows you to understand all this and come to terms with it before too long. 

I really recommend you talk with someone from MacMillan.  You're not alone in how you're feeling.  Others will come along, likely over the weekend, with further support etc.  We've all been through this, one way or another.  Each copes in different ways.  There is a lot of support available, both in practical terms, ie benefits, alternative therapies, councelling, general chats with people who understand etc.

Take care, pamper yourself, be kind to yourself and whatever else that may help you to manage this.  If it would be of any help, I'm happy if you want to message me   {{{Hugs}}}  

Hi Rox and Mel

Sorry to hear that you both have to go through Breast Cancer. While it is overwhelming particularly when they tallking to you about your treatment plan, it feels like they are throwing information at you but the treatment is doable.  There is plenty of support out there for people in our situation.  Wishing you both the best of luck with your treatments.