Good morning.
I have just joined this group in the early hours of being unable to get to sleep. I met with the Oncologist yesterday after having a lumpectomy and lymph node removal 4 weeks ago and my treatment is being put in place. I feel completely lost. I have a very supportive son who lives very near but feel I am going to be putting too much on him. I am having chemo, Herceptin,radiotherapy and tablets and feel overwhelmed. I have only lived here for 3 years having lived abroad. I have made friends with several neighbours who are lovely but didn’t make many friends as my husband had dementia and died this time last year. I am 74 and feel my world has been turned upside down.
Hello
My name is julie. I had the same treatment as you. I completely understand that you are not sleeping. I was a wreck for the first few weeks after diagnosis. It's very scary. You will make plenty of friends on here and you will meet people having treatment at the hospital. Once the covid restrictions are lifted you will again be able to meet more people. It's a very scary and unknown experience but you will be ok. I'm 19 months post diagnosis now and back at work etc. It still worries me every day but in time I'm hoping that will go away. I'm really sorry you lost your husband.
Love julie x
Hi, we returned from living overseas about 4 years ago and I have found it quite difficult to make friends too, it's different to moving with young kids when you have that natural school based community and Covid has certainly not helped. I agree with Julie though, this online community is a great support network, day and night and hopefully you'll find it helpful. Take care
Hi Julie, my name is Doreen. Thank you for replying. The tears just won’t stop! I keep trying to pull myself together and I know there are a lot of ladies worse off than me but it’s not helping just now. It was only the result of a requested mammogram by me that it was found and I know if I hadn’t done it then, it could have been much much worse.
I keep reading things that I had no idea about (and still don’t) like not using spray deodorants and eating organic food. As soon as I start reading things I can’t take it in!! I suppose it’s all too recent. I am absolutely dreading it. I suppose my lockdown continues.
Sorry to be so miserable snd again for your kind words. Doreen xx
Thanks for replying. The night time waking hours are always horrible. I do wonder what where life would have gone if we hadn’t moved back. X
Hello
I can private message you if you want my mobile number I can text or WhatsApp you and hopefully help
Love julie x
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