Just a Hi

Hi TIM1K9 welcome to the forum and sending some love and hugs  right back at you.

Im not surprised that you are feeling overwhelmed by the speed at which it all happens, and it is like a whirlwind, like you get picked up and spun round then spat back out wondering whats happened. That's ok though because that's quite normal for us all.

Is it the Loose Women that are feeling a bit crazy or yourself??   It will feel strange to you when you get time to actually do that as I imagine that time for you will be a rarity with a young family so take all the rest you can get and if family want to pamper you then just sit back and let them. Enjoy it while it lasts.

 thank you, trying to behave even though I really want to pick up the broom! I have so many jobs I want to do but all of them involve my right arm or lifting ♀️. Today’s plan ... wander downstairs stroke the dog and make coffee, wander back upstairs and run shallow bath, clean pits!, wander into bedroom for clean pjs, sit, flick on phone, sit some more, wander downstairs and stare out the window, sit, make another coffee, stroke dog, sit, eat my fruit My daughter made me whilst sitting ! Stand up Do my stretches then sit some more !! It’s only Wednesday! ♀️ I kids have been amazing.  Being on the other side of cancer feels very different and the connection you feel to others going through the same. Maria x 

Hi TIM1K9 100% agree with you on that one it makes a difference when it happens for us. Do you feel like getting out for a walk that would help lift your spirits a bit.xxxx

yea good idea, was going to give myself this week and then walking is definitely on the agenda!  I have a horse and dog so finding it weird not walking or pushing a wheelbarrow! Avoiding looking amy work too.  A friend just dropped off a carrot cake... that lifted the Spirits  thank you for your support.  Never thought I’d ever be someone who needed that, it really helps x 

Hi there, like you I was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and am due to have surgery very soon. I have a young son and am really worried about how all this wil impact on him. Sad and scared. Hope your recovery is going well. 

Hi there TIM1K9 and bluesky2. I liked your summary of sitting and doing small things and then sitting again. That’s a good way to recover. I’ve had surgery and just completed 6 rounds of chemo. My advice would be to take it a day at a time. I don’t try and think too far ahead otherwise it can be overwhelming. Once you know your full treatment plan I think it helps so you know what you need to do. The waiting is the worst part. Keep updating the forum. There’s always somebody who will respond and help you feel better. That’s been my experience (thank you all you fruit loops   ) and keep asking your breast care nurse if there’s anything not clear or worrying you. Macmillan are also great if you need support. Let us alL know how you get on 

Robbo16 thanks for your messages and sorry taken a week to answer, locked myself out of the website! Doh! When is your surgery @Bluesky2 ? Worrying about your son is natural, this has been more about my kids than me.  Mine are older 20 & 17, still my babies and we are so close.  They have been beyond amazing. Although now my son (the youngest) can’t see me physically uncomfortable anymore he is back to asking me to butter his toast ! My daughter on the other hand, really stepped up.  Kids of all ages are resilient and they want to be strong for you.   I have my follow up on Monday when the dressings come off and @Robbo16 I think that’s great guidance on one day at a time. Being on the other side feels very different and I can’t even imagine what 6 rounds of chemo even feels like, that must have taken super power strength ,‘I’m in awe  I wish you luck Bluesky2 wirh your surgery and please know you are in the best hands.   Not sure the words lucky and cancer go together .... !!!  But I was lucky, I had a lumpectomy and lymph node removal, I’m sore and recovery has been better than I expected for me.  Still sore but a kinda get used to it sore and ache..... Worst part is having a mild nasty odour under the arm where the lymph odes were removed, think it’s only me that can smell it when I put my nose right under my armpit.... not allowed to use perfume or deodorant yet.  Also not being able to lift is annoying and understandable.  Practising the whole self care thing! Nervous to see my boob and understanding biopsy results and next steps.  Keep in touch people ️xx

Hi @TIMK9 I think cancer and lucky can definitely go together.  Chances of getting cancer are really high and I feel fortunate that it was breast cancer and that like you it was removed by lumpectomy and nodes were clear.  No chemo and I just finished radiotherapy.  I consider myself very lucky indeed.  

One of the other ladies on here also has the same issue with a smelly pit so I think it's just normal for some people.  Maybe try some raw coconut oil as it's completely natural and is meant to have antibacterial and antiviral properties and smells nice if you like the smell of coconut.

Hope your results come back good.

Glad your chemo is done and dusted Robbo16

Hope you are feeling less scared now  I don't know your back story but breast cancer is very treatable and surgery isn't bad at all as they give you pain meds.  Hope you have your surgery soon if you haven't already.