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Hi CazF76 welcome to the forum and I am so sorry to hear what has happened for you.

They must think that by looking at what they can see on Mammogram, ultrasound etc that this could potentially be a Breast Cancer. However they wont know for absolute certainty until that biopsy comes back and that will tell them what type of Cancer it is and what the plan for you will be if this does turn put to be a Breast  Cancer. This could still turn out to be something which isn't Breast Cancer but they seem to think it is a strong possibility from what they can see.

Just to give you another heads up that if all the results are not back by Monday you will go to be discussed at the next MDT which tends to be on a weekly basis. I hope that that doesn't happen for you but its best to be prepared just in case.

Im not surprised that both your family and you will be reeling from the possibility of this and the uncertainty of the next few days waiting on results it may feel like time passes very slowly but try to keep yourself busy and time passes quicker.

I also know that it might be tempting to search the Internet but resist at all costs as you have no specific details as yet and the Internet is not specific enough so may throw up results that are more scarey than they need to be so stick here and we will be with you every step of the way.

Sending some huge big hugs your way for now.xxxxx

Thank you for your reply Gail, I was so shocked and due to the current circumstances I was on my own. They did want to wait until my husband arrived to tell me but by that point I knew I wasn't getting goid news. The lovely nurse practitioner never said "possibly"or "could be" she literally said "im so sorry but you have a wee breast cancer" her words will haunt me until I get the next call. Hope you are well and I really appreciate your response. Xx

Hey, 

Reading your post just brought back memories of my own. I understand how you are feeling, for me the waiting game was the worst, but we all react in different ways. 

The advice that got me through was, OK so it is what it is, we can't change it but ther e is treatment out there.... And you will get through it.

At the time it was hard for me to take and believe that advice but looking back I wish I had taken it.

Hi, thank you for replying

As a normally super positive person this just came as such a shock. Joining this group has been one of the best things I've done since Tuesday. I cannot change anything but I can choose how I will deal with it, mentally. I'm under no illusions and Im putting on the big girl pants and facing this head on. The support on this group is exceptional and I fully intend to engage with everyone. The days seem like weeks right now but one foot in front of the other and I will get there. 

Hope you are well jostar xx

Hi CazF76, It comes as a shock to most of us -even those who have suspicions . My Consultant and the doctor who took the biopsies were so sure that I had breast cancer that they both said if it came back negative I would be coming back for more biopsies. But breast cancer is very treatable these days and i speak with 22 years experience.(Have a look at my bio if you wish by clicking on my name). I see that you have already been advised not to look on the internet and I would definitely endorse that ! Your best source of information is your Breast Care Nurse who will have access to your notes and know your particular details. If you or your husband wants more information /support the nurses on here are a great choice- they brought me up to date before my operation. Just give them a ring and I am sure they will be helpful. Others will be along to make you welcome and we have all been where you are just now. I hope your meeting goes ahead on Monday as planned and would advise you to write down all that is said and perhaps have a list of questions for them too.Take a look at some of the other themes on here under Chat - I would particularly recommend the Awake thread and someone is usually around 24/7. Just introduce yourself and you will be made very welcome . Sending big hugs in the meantime  xxKwissy

Thank you Kwissy, 

Your advice is very much appreciated. I will make sure to write everything down and I will definitely engage with the breast care nurse when I get one, for now I am grateful to have found thus group. Its amazing how a text can help. Even just writing the 1st post brought some relief. I hope you are well xx

Hi CazF76, I also felt a huge sense of relief when I first wrote everything down in my first post on here.  It's wonderful to be able to chat with others who have or are going through the same thing you are.  The waiting is the absolute pits but when you are finally given your treatment plan (assuming it's cancer but really hoping it isn't) you do feel a lot better because you know what you are going to do in order to be rid of it.  Breast cancer is very treatable theses days and the treatment is also a lot more bearable than it used to be so try not to worry too much and reach out for help if you have down days.  As Kwissy advised have a look at the AWAKE thread - it's what got me through my dark days.

This should be the link https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/chat-breast-cancer/f/breast-cancer-forum/128753/awake

Pop on and say Hi if you feel like it and you will get a very warm welcome.  Lots of us there at different stages of our treatment and some who have been cancer free for some years now.

Wishing you all the best xx

Thank you,

I will introduce myself on the awake thread, as advised. Today is a new day full of possibilities and I plan to enjoy it. Monday still seems so far away and I'm aware it could possibly be the following week so I will continue to engage here until I know exactly what I'm dealing with. I hope you are well xx