So sorry about your diagnosis. It is a bit of a shock to start with and the waiting to get results back before your doctors are able to give you your treatment plan can be quite anxious and is probably the worst bit. Once they give you your treatment plan you will probably start to feel a little better.
What have they told you so far and what tests have they done - mammogram and biopsy I assume.
The main thing to remember is that breast cancer is very treatable these days. It's just that the process and the waiting can be a quite stressful.
I was diagnosed 18th December, had my surgery 16th December and waiting to have radiotherapy. You can read my and others stories by clicking on our names.
You should consider doing your bio too - I found it helped to write it down and it also allows others to see where you are at and connect with you if you are similar.
I know you probably feel like the stuffing has been knocked out of you right now but it will get better. It's a process you have to get through but it's all very doable whatever your treatment plan is.
Yes, mind blowing sums it up. It takes time to process and there will be lots of emotions to deal with - up days and down days - or minutes, sometimes. Take it one step at a time and you'll get through - we are all here to help you.
As Godwilling says, breast cancer is very treatable and there are lots of us here who finished treatment years ago and are now getting on with our lives and thriving.
Distraction is always good - anything absorbing whether that's work, cleaning, reading, jigsaws, whatever - try to have a little time off from cancer when you can.
Have a look around the site - we have some long running threads which you are more than welcome to join in with and some threads for specific treatments. Join in wherever you feel comfortable - we are all very friendly and will give you a hand with whatever you need.
let us know how you are getting on and for now, sending some virtual hugs
Its lovely to be able to talk to others :) I have 40x30mm, grade 2, ER+8 PR+5, axillary node positive invasive ductal carcinoma currently waiting for Her 2 final result. I had a CT scan Tuesday and my follow up appointment is 12th Feb. I have always been a positive person and put on my big girl positive pants in uncertain situations! This however is different I am being positive and then ‘ the what if’s’ creep in mainly around my children. I have two daughters aged 25 and 20. It’s definitely the waiting to see what treatment will be that’s hard. Although I have to say all health professionals have been amazing and very quick.
It's definitely hard when you have children because you don't want to put them through the same stress and uncertainty you are having to go through. My children are about the same age as yours (21 and 22). I think it's important to be honest with them and let them know they can ask you whatever questions they have and that you will answer them honestly. This helped my sons a lot especially the older on who need a bit more information and a bit more reassuring.
I had invasive ductal hormone positive carcinoma as well. It's one of the most common types and responds very well to treatment. My nodes weren't positive but plenty others on here had positive nodes as well and they are fine now. Some needed chemo and others didn't.
The chemo is a bit rough but very doable form what I've been told. It's better than it used to be with meds to counter most if not all the side effects. Then when chemo is over people seem to recover from it's effects and go back to leading normal lives. You won't know yet whether you need chemo but I'm telling you this just in case, so that you know that it isn't something to be worried about or scared for.
Talking to others on this site is what gave me my positivity back and helped me not to be afraid and trust that I would be ok. I hope it does the same for you.
There is a thread called the awake thread which lots of us post on or just follow. It has people at all stages of this process and some who have been cancer free for some years. There is often someone on there at all hours of the night. If you want to join in just say say and you will get a very warm welcome and lots of help and support. Otherwise you can just keep posting here and I will respond to you as might ronstar whose posts gave me a lot of hope and comfort.
