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Hi Yelreveb welcome to the forum . Its little wonder that you are feeling emotional as this is a huge thing that has happened to you and for you and as you say has happened all so quickly you don't get time to think or even feel except possibly fear and anxiety at the huge uncertainty you face at the start of this all. 

Allow yourself time to feel, as this is a huge part of you that is gone and Im not sure what your thoughts are about that but its ok to feel emotional and yes the anaesthetic will have a part to play as it can take between  7-10 days for that to get out of your system. Please do keep posting an let us know how you are doing and look after yourself and Im  sending some gentle big hugs your way on his Xmas day. xxxxx

Hi, I had my mx 3 weeks ago and before the op I would have times when I was emotional and others where I said to myself "I'm going to fight this",  It is a very hard journey we are all going through and there would be something wrong if we didn't feel emotional at times.  Hugs and my thoughts are with you. 

yelreveb    you have been through a lot in the last 4 weeks   dont worry about feeling emotional     its a normal human reaction    i am way down the line in terms of treatment  and i still feel emotional about why this had to happen   the key is being able to feel emotional  but still manage what you need to do    some people say anaesthetic makes them emotional  so maybe it is related   either way      be kind to you and    talk to others about how you feel   , here on the forum or  friends and family

Thank u Gail. Thank u so much for ur reply. I found it very reassuring. I will be going to the breast cancer clinic next week for my dressing to be changed and 2 weeks later I will find out if the cancer has spread to my lymph nodes.The prognosis is good so I'm confident all will be OK. Whilst in surgery, the splint securing my 2 front teeth in place was cracked when the tube was removed from my throat. When do u think it will be safe for me to visit the dentist to get it fixed?

Thank u Lesley. How long do u think it might be before I can return to work?

Thank u Usula. Since returning home after surgery my daughter (25) who lives at home with me has become very subdued and won't talk to me about how she is feeling. My sister has come to stay with us to help me round the house while I recover.  Do u think this might have something to do with it?

i think  our emotions are definitely connected to those around us     esp our children      i am sure you will be able to find the right  moment or way in to have   a conversation with her   about  her change of mood   its really hard for those closest to us to know what to say    maybe she wanted to look after you  and feels aunty is taking that role    maybe the reality of the cancer settling in as you have had your treatment ,  you will know her best  based on how she has responded to other life events    wishing you luck in having that conversation with her     sometimes as i am sure you know we as parents have to out our emotions to one side and work on our childrens and then find once we have helped them  we feel relieved and less emotional too 

I have a 25 year old daughter (she was 20 when I was diagnosed).  My daughter not much of a talker about how she's feeling when asked but will suddenly want to when I'm  about to fall asleep or when she's in texting mode.  Have you thought of texting her - I know she's in same house but she might find it easier.  I wouldn't constantly ask if she's ok about your diagnosis or such but maybe just comments to gently acknowledge the last few weeks events like- well this Christmas a bit different or all things considers I enjoyed Christmas etc. 

Everyone has to come to terms with your cancer on their own way , it's not your job to make them feel ok with it, it's your job to look after yourself for a while .   Be kind to yourself , it does get better xx

I don't work but a lot depends on how YOU feel and the type of work you do.  I am still getting really tired in the afternoons even though I don't actually do a lot.  Let your body be your guide and I don't think there is a doctor who would force you back to work before you are ready.  Speak to your employer about a phased return, working part time for a while so you can gauge how you feel.

Hi Yelreveb I would be tempted to give the dentist a call and see what they say and tell them about what is happening for you treatment wise as this may affect what they can and cannot do. I am not sure what the arrangements are with the  dentist in your area around Covid etc as most of ours in my area are closed at the moment. xxxx