Hi there

Hi BGTree, I received the news I had breast cancer on December 8th ( my birthday) 

Hi BGTree, I was diagnosed about a week ago and also haven't told my children.  Not sure if or when I'll tell them.  I'm also feeling positive about my treatment plan.  Finding the whole thing a bit sureal still.  How old are your children? A great place to get support is by joining in on the AWAKE thread in ongoing discussions.  Lots of marvellous positive welcoming ladies at different stages of their treatment and some who have been cancer free for a while.  Has really helped me.  Just post a Hi or what you posted above and you will be quickly welcomed.

Hi Crawler, I received the news a couple of weeks after my birthday.  And with Christmas now and Covid the timing really sucks doesn't it?  Have a look at my reply to BGTree re the AWAKE thread if you need to talk with people.  It's very light hearted and upbeat.

Hi God Willing, thanks for your message.

my Children are 15 and 11, just thinking about telling them makes me anxious.

You mentioned the AWAKE thread, how do I access it please.

Thank you and take care x

Hi,  Although my daughter is 28, I have a 12 year old granddaugter who took it in her stride when I told her I had cancer.  Unfortunately, her other grandmother has it too but much worse than mine.  I think if you are truthful and prepared with answers to any questions they have then they will be able to handle it.  If you don't know the answer to a question, tell them you will ask next time you see a doctor.  The awake thread is in ongoing discussions, I think.  Just search for AWAKE.  My mastectomy was on 3 December so I am a little bit ahead of you.  I am just waiting for histology results on 6 January,

Hi BGTree the AWAKE thread is usually at the top of the list on the Ongoing Discussions thread which you get to under the breast cancer group.  Here is the link to take you straight there: https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/breast-cancer-forum/f/breast-cancer-forum/128753/awake

Now that I know more about the cancer I have and that chances are really good (as they mostly are in breast cancer I think) that it should all be fine I feel more comfortable telling them but still don't want to burden them with it.  I feel better about telling them today than I did last week when I just found out but I might hold off till much closer to my operation.

The right time to tell them will be different for all of us but so far the feedback has been that peoples children seem to take it quite well.

See you on the AWAKE thread

Thank you Lesley63

Thank you GodWilling

Hi. I was diagnosed on December 3rd as well. I’m still waiting for my treatment plan. Hopefully next week. We told my oldest son(17) so far. We were honest about what we knew & didn’t know, he took it well. He is our babysitter when I had evening appointments.  We are waiting for my treatment plan to tell the rest of our kids(12 & 7) and other family. So it’ll help with all their questions and some of the things they can expect when I start treatment.