Stage 3 grade 3 her 2 positive -terrified

It's not unusual for your mental health to be knocked by your diagnosis and the drugs given.  It takes so long to finish treatment,  especially with the extra medication for HER2+ as well, and as well as the worry there's the kids of self from how chemo changes our appearance.  Could you speak to your breast care nurse about counselling or therapy if you think it would help? 

Treatment is so much better than even a few years ago,  and new treatments are being developed all the time. There's every chance that hippy make a full recovery and see your daughter grow up:) when I was diagnosed in 2019 was just before mother's day,  and i kept it secret from my daughters. I was scared that it would be our last one.  I don't have a crystal ball to know how things will go,  but that was five and a half years ago now!

Great news that your treatment is working so well though! 

Hi there, sorry you're having a tough time right now, I think many of us have good times and less good times through this journey,  I was chatting to a colleague the other day, she's early 50s now and was diagnosed 17 years ago, and I have to admit, that made me feel pretty positive.

If you’re up to talking about it, you could give the lovely folks here at Macmillan a call, on 0800 808 0000. They're there to listen, support, advise and generally chat things through. Best wishes 

Hello - I think my diagnosis is similar to yours. I’m having TCHP and just finished my 5th chemo - tumour has shrunk and waiting to find out what type of surgery I’ll need but round 4 and 5 chemo hit me really really hard. 

Those days post chemo were very dark. I think the chemo has a depressive part too (the gift that keeps on giving huh!) My BC nurses picked up on this and have referred me for counselling. I’m pleased about that. 

Do give MacMillan a ring. I’ve tried to take away positives from people around me and I’ve written down so many things that the oncologist said about it being treatable and curable. What I found hard is wishing I had a smaller lower grade cancer, everyone I speak to who hasn’t had cancer tries to say something comforting like “my friend had it, she just needed a lumpectomy”. Yeah great for your friend. I need the full works. I’m scared. The other hard thing is when the media is so full of cancer stories. I’ve resolved not to look at social media if I’m having a dark day. 

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. 

Hello I was diagnosed with grade 3 HER2+ and ER+ in August 23. I had EC and Paclitaxol chemotherapy plus Herceptin. I am still having Herceptin I had 5 days of radiotherapy this July and have started on AI Exemestane . I found EC chemo particularly tough but was told that most people feel the same. I’m so sorry that you are having to go through this at such a young age and have the additional worry for your daughter. I am 73 so it’s different for me. However all 5 of my grandchildren are autistic , 2 of them are very close to me which is a joy but also a responsibility if you know what I mean.It’s given me the push to keep going. Everyone is different and find their own way through treatment . There is no right or wrong way. I hope you have the support you need, I wish you the very best with your treatment. 

Hello there ! 

I was first diagnosed with high grade dcis when I was 34. I underwent my mastectomy at 35 and was told I didn't need any other treatment. I am now 36 and was newly diagnosed triple positive invasive cancer, grade 3. I am currently in discussions about my treatment plan but my doctor has mentally prepared me for the entire thing. At first I felt so frustrated, how is this fai. I did everything right the first time. I lost a breast. Now I have to loose my hair as well. BUT eveytime I look at my 3 years old son I slap on a smile and re affirm my spirit. I will beat it this time too. There is no way I am not going to be here for my son. There is still so much life ahead of us. I use all the future dreams and plans I make with my family as my source of courage and patience. It's a difficult journey the one that we have to go, there are no shortcuts. But with every step we take, with every treatment, with every drug we come closer to a cancer free life. And that's what I remind myself. I hope this somehow adds a positive note for you too. Use your surroundings as your source of strength and stubbornness. This story ends only one way and that is success !

Hi just to send a big hug really. I’ve been recently diagnosed too, so know how your brain wants to think the worst. 
I always thought it happened to everyone else, I have really small boobs , so assumed I’d never get anything like that.

It is terrifying- the waiting, the unknown, the future ….what I have seen is how common it is. I work in a big office and so many have had BC . All seem completely different, treatment all seems to vary. Some have had chemo, some not.
My manager at work had aggressive triple Neg cancer, she’s in her latte 60’s and spent 18months having treatment but is now 7years clear. I try and take positive from that. I’ve gone a week without crying - for me a positive at the minute. Please speak to someone -  nurse or a councillor, I’m sure it’ll help

it might make you feel a bit better getting it off your chest to someone who’s not family. You don’t have to put a brave face on then.

sending a big hug and wishing you healing vibes xxx.

Hello I'm newly diagnosed to (28th October)

Triple positive idc stage 2 grade 2 & Dcis 

I'm looking at dmx after having chemotherapy I'm having 6 cycles starting the end of Nov, I have a 5 year old daughter aswell. I have been up and down with emotions scared of how well I will be when start and it's totally normal to feel all this, I have been on tiktok and there are so many people on there telling stories of 18 years and 21years no evidence of disease which gives me hope. Like everyone has said the treatments are do much better, xx

I'm 30 turning 31 in December