how are other halfs finding it/coping x

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as you can tell, this is so new to us, masectomy right boob booked next thursday, husband has been brilliant but also has his moments when he is devastated, worried, emotional, and so supportive, he has made it very very clear the main thing is that all he wants is his wife to come through the op, come home then we go from there, one boob or no boobs is not an issue god love him. i am  just trying not to be too flippant about whats coming, go from being strong, in denial, and crying, and wanting to make the most of the next few days hopefully in the sun with both boobs and husband.

Any advice ref pre/post op support for him - i know its my boob thats going, but he has been 100% there for me from the initial recall letter arriving, hospital appointments, but it must be hard, terrifying for him, any advice thank you again xx

  • Hi,

    I'm glad your husband has been supportive. I have the same concerns for mine, as this is new for us too.

    I have told my sister in law, as she would be the person he will most likely confide in and she has told him she knows. He hasn't said much but I can see he is a bit more relaxed knowing he has someone he can turn to. I'm not sure he would go to a formal group for support.

    Do you have a 'Maggies' near you? They support relatives too. McMillan also has support for family.

    I wish you all the best for your surgery.

  • I totally get this.  I feel my husband has taken the brunt of all my ups and downs and weathered it well. He’s the only one I’m completely honest with.  I spare my friends and family the worst of it and downplay things.  I recently wondered if maybe talking to Macmillan or Maggies or joining a local group for mutual support would take the pressure off him.  I agree it’s really scary for our significant others.  If we feel powerless ourselves then they surely do too.  

  • Thank you trying to make some lovely memories this weekend, just trying not to go into angry mode, and breath!! Cry, got 5 days to get through, so taking a day at a time xx