Hey!! I’m new to this so wanted to say hi 
also I have a question. I had breast cancer 18 months ago and I’ve just started a new relationship which is my first one since diagnosis and I’m really struggling with my confidence and also body confidence as my left breast is ‘wonky’ ans I’m very conscious about this. Just seeing if this is normal and how do I get past this. Thank you in advance xxx
Hi Survivor79
I think the thing to remember is that no-one's body is ever perfect and that will include your new partner's body. They might have body issues for something that you feel is nothing. I totally expect they will feel the same about yours.(ie. it's nothing to be concerned about).
I had a road accident at the age of 17 and the shin of my leg was degloved to the bone. I needed muscle transplanted over the bone and then skin graft over this. The rest of my leg from the knee down is absolutely covered in scars. (it doesn't actually look much like a leg!). I never had any issue with partners and I've been with my current partner for 9 years (57 now, been married in the past, had a long term live in boyfriend before etc). I once joked with the long term live in boyfriend that it was lucky he wasn't a 'leg man' - he didn't realise I was joking and was totally offended and said "How shallow do you think men are?". And that about sums it up, if a man is concerned about a wonky breast (mine is as well as I had 80mm removed when I had BC 6 years ago) then he is too shallow and not worth your time and effort being with him.
My friend had a cesarean scar which she was paranoid about, do you think that anyone would worry about it?
As to if it's normal to think like this, then yes it is - but try not to be conscious about it and just treat is a normal part of your body which is no different from anyone else's worries and concerns (of e.g. having a slightly bigger nose or thin lips etc etc )
Kindest wishes, Lesley
