Hi everyone,
I don't really know where to start or what to say just I'd like to chat with anyone who's gone through the same or similar as I seem to be the only young person I ever see at my chemo treatments 
( obviously I know there will be plenty out there my age, younger and older going through this shit show).
I got diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer stage 3 in May 2023 myself and my partner only had 2 weeks to take all this in before I started hormone therapy and 12 weeks of weekly Taxol, Carbo and Pembro treatments then another 12 weeks of EC and Pembro treatments. (I'm 5 weeks in treatments)
Think we've both gone through every emotion possible so far the worst is just frustration with everything and the "Why me".
I wanted to ask has anyone else noticed with family members especially that they literally just disappear off face of the earth or are ours just selfish self centred idiots? I don't have a big family myself only my dad and grandparents so I'm used to it but I'm gob smacked at my partners family side his Dad, grandma, sister, brother and auntie especially. They act all this amazing family unit and there for you only when they want something but not one has asked us truly how were coping with everything or asked us out or over. I get the odd "how are you feeing" but come on I know we aren't in the "close circle/click" but please just contact my poor partner he needs family support.
Sorry for the rant just don't know if it's worth saying something or will it just cause arguments??
Any help greatly appreciated. Xxx
Hi, sorry to hear of your diagnosis, it can be a real whirlwind of information and emotions. I hope your chemo is going well and you're coping with the wide effects.
Family and friends can behave in the most unexpected of ways, both positive and negative and it's so difficult to handle. Perhaps your partner's family aren't sure how to approach the subject or don't know what support you might need and aren't sure how to ask. Has your partner considered asking for some practical support, or popping to see his family to chat to them? Maybe even being proactive and calling to say “it was treatment day today” and just talking about what you're both experiencing, to try and engage them a little more.
In terms of risking an argument, maybe it's best to rant away on here, lots of sympathetic people who'll be happy to listen. Best wishes
