Should others remember dates of op and end of treatment

Hi Molly, I am only just beginning my journey having been diagnosed with breast cancer just over a week ago. I am finding that every day is a different emotion, and this journey is a huge one and so personal. Whilst being kind to yourself, and recognising how tough this is, be patient with those around you too.....there is such a mixture of reactions and until faced with these challenges, none if us know how we'll deal with what is ahead....and unfortunately, whilst we are left with raw emotions and memories, life moves quickly and we are all so busy...so I'm sure it's not because they dont care!

Look after yourself and just talk to them about your feelings... remember how strong you've been.

Interesting question as I had the first anniversary of my mastectomy this week and on the actual day could think of nothing else. My husband remembered but nobody else said anything 

I came to the conclusion that it was probably normal & I'm hoping that as the milestones pass each year I will be less consumed

It's a hard journey to forget. 

Best wishes x 

I'm pretty clueless about dates in general although I do remember date being told I was cancerous and distinctly remember mastectomy date. After that it's all a blur and it was only last yr! I never think about it if I can help it.  B W to all fellow sufferers xxx

I remember my own cancer-related dates (well, most of them) but I cannot remember on what date my mother had her mastectomy or any other dates relating to her treatment. I would be greatly surprised if any of my children remembers mine.

Do you remember anyone's dates other than your own?

Hi Mollyb75 , I’m about 2 years on from my first op but even I can’t remember the date.  I certainly wouldn’t expect my family to remember it.  That doesn’t mean I’ve forgotten what I went through, or that they have.  I agree with Dungarees girl - it doesn’t mean they don’t care.  

I felt the same it was 2 yrs ago on the 8th. I was on holiday in Scotland. No one said anything. I thought about it a lot but then remembered how much I had got through (all appointments on own as post covid, made redundant twice despite working all through treatment, the loss of my dad a fortnight before Xmas and relocating to Derbyshire as my partner and I bought a house). Just keeping on going. Coming up for my mammogram,  new hospital so am already anxious  but have to keep going. X

Why do things all happen at once..sounds like it was a pretty tough time for you without the diagnosis....we have to be proud of ourselves for getting through these tough times xxx 

Not sure if I feel like they should but annoying when a close family member remembers every date that they went through heart problems, op etc but fails to remember what treatment you had whilst watching Sarah Benny documentary  and you remember every hurdle  so I know what you mean x

Just wanted to say thank you for posting this topic. I was beginning to think I was also being over sensitive but reassuring to know that someone feels the same. 3rd big anniversary coming up so not holding me breath