Telling kids

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Hi all I was diagnosed with breast cancer 2021

have had all my treatment

I made a friend after I was diagnosed and our children have become friends she was about a year in front of me with her breast cancer diagnosis and had gotten the all clear

my friend was diagnosed with secondary cancer in the brain in January and is very aggressive she has a matter of weeks to live

my dilemma is whether/what to tell my children without scaring them as I know that they’ll be worried about me getting it back while I am terrified myself of it coming back

my eldest starts their GCSEs on Monday any advice would be much appreciated

toottoot over 2 years ago

Hi Rehead1, what an awful dilemma. I would wait until after GCSE's unless you think they might find out from someone else in the meantime (her children?). I'm very much on the "be completely honest" front but they probably don't need to know this is secondary cancer? it may stop them from wondering if you will get it next. How very sad for you and her family x

Rehead1 over 2 years ago in reply to toottoot

Hi thanks for your reply would normally agree with you on the honesty front my eldest child actually knows the cancer is back and immediately started panicking about me

They both know she’s very Ill my youngest has asked me what’s wrong with her but I’ve sort of skirted over the answer

if it wasn’t for my eldest GCSEs I would’ve told them both

The GCSEs are on for the next 4 weeks but I’m not sure my friend will live that long

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