Just need to vent (apologies in advance lol)

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Hi all just came to vent even if no one reads it lol. Having radiotherapy at the moment and it seems to be going well. In fact I seemed to have managed most of my treatment pretty well. Everyone keeps saying how well I'm doing and how positive and strong I am being. I don't know about anyone else but I just feel like I can manage the Cancer but everything else seems to be falling down around me. I didn't work during Chemotherapy and only started back before Christmas. Although part of me knows that staying off was a good decision, financially it has left us in a less than desirable situation and I can't help but wonder if I should have worked. My husband's mental health has really suffered trying to support me and get to grips with an over demanding job. I work at a local supermarket and was only given a basic 12hr contract when I started but always had overtime. Now that I'm back I'm on my basic 12 hrs which just isn't enough. I have spoken to my boss today to tell him I'm available for any extra hours he has once my radiotherapy finishes but I know what I really need to do is find another job. It's hard as I'm 44 now and my last full time job in an office was before I had my eldest who is now 12. I think in that time I've lost some of my confidence. Anyway fingers crossed for better times to come.

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    This is not a vent, this is real life! Cancer interrupts everything in our lives, from home, love, family, work/career, health. It steals our routine and sets a new one. You’re still young and have plenty of time to look for a new job if that will help you all. The extra shifts at your present job may come back in time. Keep the faith and believe good things are on the horizon! Your hubby sounds a fantastic man, there are many who can’t/won’t help in cases such as ours. I wish you well! The sun will be here soon! XxX

  • Thank you Tavares. I do hope so Relaxed️

  • Hello Maz100

    Give yourself a break.

    Hope you are able to discuss this with your husband - I know it can be difficult, but at least to temporarily manage what’s happening.

    Finish your radiotherapy.  Then you can start to look at what to do. You need to be kind to yourself whilst having treatment.

     I wish you well. Xx

  • Thank you, yes I can talk to my husband. He has been great throughout, took me to all my chemotherapy sessions and is taking me to my Radiotherapy ones too. It was just unfortunate that he suffered a burnout before Christmas and got signed off work. He was new to the job and they quickly piled on the workload to the point that he was doing the work of three people all while supporting me and the children and trying to finish renovations on our home. We were fortunate to be living with his parents at the time though so had great support from them but it was and is a stressful time all round. He only wants the best for us so gets easily frustrated because he feels like everything is going wrong.

  • Keep talking both of you. 
    You will get there together.

    Be kind to yourself - don’t forget- it matters. xx