My husband was diagnosed with stomach cancer in February and was given the bad news that only palliative treatment could be offered. Then in June I was diagnosed with breast cancer and in July I had a mastectomy followed by hormone therapy. I have really coped well with my situation and I think I recovered quickly because I wanted to concentrate on my husband. He has always been very independent and confident and at first we carried on as normal. Then he had radiotherapy to try and shrink the tumour and suffered really horrible side effects. He couldn’t eat and even the smell of food nauseated him . He has lost so much weight and is looking really frail and lacking in energy. I find it very hard to see him like this and I know he hates being so vulnerable. I don’t know how to help him. I am not alone my daughter lives not too far away and she is wonderful and does everything she can to help us. My son and his wife who live the other side of the country came for a few days last week and cheered us up but most of the time it is just the two of us. We have had a good life and lived abroad for periods and travelled a lot which we both loved. Our lives have changed so much now and although I know it could not go on forever I am feeling such a sense of loss and dread further losses.
I'm so sorry to read this Coral; such a lot for you to deal with. I'm sending best wishes to you and your husband 
