Lost a friend

Hi Why

Sorry to hear that you lost a good friend to cancer this week.  It's hard to say when those thoughts will go away.  Try keeping yourself busy doing things that you love to help you not to think about what the future will bring.  Don't beat yourself up about how you are feeling, there is no right or wrong way to think about your cancer.

Hope this helps.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Hi Why, losing someone to cancer is bound to increase worry for ourselves. So sorry for your loss and for the extra stress regarding your own situation. As said above, there isn’t a timescale for when the worrying thoughts decrease, but from my own experience it was a gradual process. I’m 4 years down the line now since my initial diagnosis and I still worry, but not as intensely or as frequently. For me it’s been a lot like a grieving process. You may have already seen this article but if not, I’d recommend a read. I return to it from time to time and I always find it helpful. Love and hugs, HFxx 

www.workingwithcancer.co.uk/.../After-the-treatment-finishes-then-what.pdf

Ah that was very useful to me thank you.  I'm at a bit of a crossroads and need to work out my new plan