Both of us have cancer

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I had a mastectomy in July and am recovery well I had stage one and no spread of the cancer and the lymph modes were clear. I consider myself lucky as I am only on hormone treatment and although I am having extremely hot flushes when I am drenched in perspiration most of the time it is manageable. My husband has stomach cancer . He was diagnosed in February and there is no cure for him. He is having difficulty swallowing and has just gone through 5 sessions of Radiotheraphy. The community nurse was supposed to arrange for anti nausea tablets for him and after the third session my husband mentioned that he was feeling so sick that she expressed surprise that he hadn’t had been prescribed the tablets. He now has the tablets . He is suffering so much and I feel helpless. He can’t eat without feeling so sick and he finds even the smell of food nauseates him. They say he will find it very difficult for the next two weeks and then things should ease. I feel so upset about everything I and I know I want to blame someone but I feel he could have been helped more. It was a blow when he was diagnosed with cancer and a double blow when I was. I am ok and want my husband to be ok too.  I know he can’t be ok in the long run I want things to be as good as possible. 

  • I am sorry you both are going through this. Be persistent with getting him help and maybe talking to a nutritionist/dietitian could help with his eating to keep his strength up. 

  • Thank you. I will persist to get help as he really needs to keep his weight and strength up. I usually can cope but today I just felt so unhappy seeing him so weak and lacking in energy. I am not alone. My lovely daughter came with a smile and bearing gifts of flowers soups and a recipe book for swallowing difficulties and most of all her love   My husband cheered up considerably although he hates anyone seeing him like this. 

    Coral 

  • I am glad you aren’t alone. People

    want to help and he mustn’t be afraid or embarrassed to ask.

    There are drinks and shakes specially formulated to help in these circumstances, pharmacy will advise