Can’t stop crying

Please don’t give up.., you will get through this .. you don’t know how strong you are .. I was diagnosed breast cancer in 2019 9 months after losing my mother .. I had a mastectomy in September 2019 .. started  16 rounds of chemo in the November..  2 weeks after starting my treatment my husband of 40 years left me for a “perfect” women . I decided he wasn’t going to stop my fight with cancer .. I also had 15 rounds of radiotherapy .. and all this was in lockdown .. I am now in remission , back at work and enjoying life with my family and friends 

Hi Coffee

Sorry you've had this news and sorry for your loss of your Nan. No wonder you are crying, so much to cope with. I too was told that I have cancer in lymph nodes. The plan, if cancer contained in nodes and breast for me is to remove the lump and nodes. 

Please keep going. It sounds like they will remove this spread to the nodes with the op. I know it's hard.

Best Wishes

Stripey x

So sorry that you are feeling so alone, you are not we are here with you and want to support you through this. The Drs and nurses can be very matter of fact about it, I believe this is because they want us to know that they have a plan and they want us to know that they have got this for us. I was diagnosed in June 2021, had chemo and mastectomy and lymph nodes (3) removed. I am now doing 1 year of herceptin & perjeta and I am well, still tired and not back to normal but getting there and tomorrow I am going to Pilates and I’m very excited by that. I worked throughout my treatment (reduced hours) and I am getting stronger every day. It takes time and can be a bit grim at times but it’s doable and we will be here for you, so please don’t give up. I just dealt with it in my own way. I got good advice (well I think so) from my surgeon and oncologist at the start “we will deal with the disease your job is to look after you” so that’s what I did. I went to work, I went out for coffee, I slept a lot!!! I cried when I wanted and needed to and I just said screw it to so many things. Xx 

Well Coffeeandwine, it is big shit. Have you been given names of breast care nurses to speak to, or can you speak to someone from Macmillan? You need support and understanding to help you navigate your way through this, but you will get there and you won't give up. It's a sad time for you with all that going on, but take it a bit at a time. I always had to wait for up to an hour for my appointment, but was fortunate to have wonderful breast care nurses to help me and I do hope you get the same. X

Hi Coffeeandwine

So sorry to hear that your cancer has spread and I’m also sorry to hear about your Nan. As others on here have said please don’t give up. While it might seem like your medical team doesn’t care believe me they do. They will do everything in their power to make sure you get through this and come out the other side of it. Breast I was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer in September 2020. I had it both in my breast and my lymph nodes. I had chemo, surgery and radiotherapy and I am now cancer free. 

Sending you a a hug.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Don’t give up. This is a dreadful shock but you’re not alone. I’m saddened that they let you leave without making sure you were ok but I guess it’s just hit you v hard and they didn’t realise..speak to macmillan xxxx

Sorry to.hear that coffeeandwine. Being diagnosed with breast cancer is hard enough without having a close bereavement as well. You are not alone this diagnosis is common and can be treated. The breast care nurses snd mcmillian are very supportive.  You can get through this and enjoy life again , that's what your nan would want for you. 

Xxx

Oh dear. I do feel for you Coffeeandwine. I think the problem is the medical profession are so used to this, they can forget the shock of it to the patient. It is unfortunately very normal to have a long wait - I waited for hours. I was very scared of the op, but on the day the Nurses were so kind, and a mastectomy, though I found it a huge shock and upset to be told it at the time in a matter of fact way like you were, actually is OK and is the most sensible way to get rid of the cancer and removal of lymph nodes is also a necessary thing if they have cancer in too. I had a long chat with a Breast Cancer Nurse before the op. Perhaps you could have that too. It doesn't matter if you're angry (I was) or tearful. That's very normal. People on here have all gone through this and are very supportive and helpful.