Hi everyone
looking for a bit of advice on how to navigate my nearest and dearest. I have stage 1 invasive ductal cancer grade 2. I had a therapeutic mammoplasty last Thursday and am now waiting to find out if it’s plan A radiotherapy or whether I will need additional treatment. My recovery from the op is going well - minimal pain and good arm mobility - just a bit tired and emotional. So all good - except i appear to have done such a good job of minimising concerns to stop my partner and adult daughters worrying that I now feel I’m not really getting any empathy or support. I don’t want to go around reminding them I have cancer and I don’t want them tip toeing around me either. But I would also like them to acknowledge that we are not yet in situation normal. Anyone else experienced this?
Hi Aly
Sorry your feeling like this it's a really difficult thing isn't it I think as women were used to brushing our own fragility under the carpet and maybe sometimes we have to stop and say sorry I need support today and I don't think they will mind they might be waiting for you to need them scared to make you feel not in control by offering support before now when let's face cancer takes away most of our control
Sending hugs xxxD
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