Hi Lez56 welcome to the forum. I am completely lost for words at what is happening for you right now and just wanted to send some huge big hugs your way for now and hope that you will keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.
We can help as much as we can and can be there to support you as much or as little as you want/need us to be, so please do keep in touch. I can imagine that you will be in such a state of shock right now but I just wanted you to know three are people here and we are good listeners. xxxx
Hi I can't imagine how tough this must be for you right now. I wanted just to let you know there is a special group for friends and family, it might have some useful support. Here's the link Friends and family group. Send best wishes
Lez56, this is a hard shock for all concerned, but your own situation is unique in that both of them are very close loved ones.
When my mother was diagnosed with cancer, one thing that helped most of us was precise information from her team. She gave me free access, I spoke to her doctor, then relayed to the family everything they needed to know, so that we all knew what to expect. If this approach is something you think might help you too, I'd start by finding out how much access each one of them is ok with.
They may need some help with practicalities during their treatments, possibly when getting chemo, and likely around surgeries. Once you feel you are able to think about that aspect, you may want to look at whether or not you might need to make any arrangements.
Long term, regardless of the demands this may now put on you, try and find time for yourself, even if it's just going out for a walk. You will need to "recharge your batteries" from time to time, and your mother and husband will benefit too if you get the opportunity to do so.
The forum that Irishgirl16 mentioned will likely have more people who are caring for loved ones and will be able to offer advice from their experience, and this forum here is where you will be able to find information about having breast cancer, and a lot of support in general.
What a nightmare for you and your family but you’re the one who can help them both by listening, learning and keeping a sense of humour. I know it’s difficult but positivism and support is the key, I found. I wish you all an easy onward journey. It’s tough looking in from the outside.
