Hi I’m new to here and not great with tec
Had mastectomy & lymph nodes on right side removed and diep flap in November
was supposed to start chemo today but one of my wounds hasn’t healed properly so potentially another 2 weeks of waiting
ive been dealing with it sort of ok up to now but feel I’ve hit a wall and really struggling in that I want the chemo to start but am dreading the side effects
does anyone else get pissed off when people say to stay positive? I know they mean well but honestly I feel like I’ll punch somebody in the face the next time they say it
sorry for the rant I’m just having a bad day
Hi Redhead
Sorry you are feeling pissed off today. It is perfectly understandable. Delays are very difficult for all of us to deal with. You don't have to apologise and the good thing here is that we all understand.
Rant on........better out than in!
Wishing you all the best
WallyDug
Afraid I can't help with the chemo but I do understand the comments. I have tried to go back to office one day a week and one lady who means very well keeps telling me how good I look. I just blag and tell her its makeup but I recall a lovely welsh volunteer saying to someone 'well it wasn't my face that had cancer!' Anna12345 started a lovely thread about the stupid things people say if you search under her name. It certainly makes you chuckle about what people come out with x
Rehead1, sorry you’re having one of those days, people piss me off on a daily basis I regularly get, ‘ you look so well’ er no I don’t, I’m bald and my eyes stream so I can’t wear make up, are you flaming blind!! Here’s the thread I started, people shared some great stories, I thought it was better to laugh at these silly things people say but punching them can also be an option xx
community.macmillan.org.uk/.../starting-to-avoid-people-because-of-the-silly-things-they-say
I'm also bald and suffer other nasty side effects but my husband can be a headache if you'll pardon the expression, he can't help it he has early on set dementia but he says are you ok so regularly and unless I'm zonked because of the drugs sometimes I could scream :) it can be very waring! The drugs (steroids) also change moods and as a very cup 3/4 full kind of person found being depressed a nightmare (so did my husband!!) but it doesn't last, so hang on in there and feel free to be pissed off, we're all only human but am wishing you all the best on your journey.
I can imagine it is wearing! I’m try and find the humour in most things but we all have our days don’t we? And I agree the steroids don’t help x
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