told yesterday I have cancer

Welcome. Thought I would reply as no one else has. Click my name to read my tale. All I can advise is that it will be an emotional roller-coaster. Once you have confirmed diagnosis then plan may seem better. See what they say but maybe have any questions in your mind or write them down. The waiting game is not nice to play but we don't get a choice. Do post and let us know how you get on. Ask anything you like. We all have a wide experience of different types and treatments and no question is too silly if you just need to offload. Hoping that outcome is good x

Exactly how I felt, roller coaster, good that everything went quick though, as did mine, as it's got to be dealt with. i asked a lot of questions though must admit I've forgotten half the answers since. Not sure if all hospitals are the same but I think like any 'business' they have to forward plan. My first visit to the surgeon, he said you may have to have a mastectomy and I was like, but I haven't started treatment yet, how can you you possibly know (cheeky!) poor man. They have lots of patience with their patients and the breast cancer nurse has been wonderful. When you hear your results and start treatment, feel free to sound off and whatever here, but try to take one day at a time (I know it's not easy) but no-one understands better than those (like the rest of us here) who have or are going through it.  Hugs and prayers.

Hi Kit

I’m 57 and just wanted to say hello, I hope as diagnosed last year.   Waiting for results is worrying and time seems to drag but in my experience when you get time to look back and catch a breath you will appreciate how quick you get from diagnosis to treatment.  It will feel easier once you know the treatment plan but just be aware that the treatment is designed for you and sometimes may be tweaked here and there as you move through the process. My breast care team is amazing as I’m sure yours will and will always answer your questions again. Great on this site too, usually someone around who can answer questions or just give you some support.  Take care x

Hi Kit,  This my first time posting but  reading you story so far is the same as I've gone through. I have a small lump and some cancer in my lymph nodes. I have been told that I'll have Chemo for 18 weeks to shrink it all then a small op at after that to remove what left. 

I'm glad there's a plan in place, but still pretty scared. Everything is so overwhelming.. 

It really is overwhelming isn't it!   This was not a club I was expecting to join.

Well, I have my appointment for next week 10.am Wednesday... when I guess they'll tell me which type of cancer it is and what my options are.    I've ( of course ) been on the net and ... nope I don't like the sound of any of it!

I'm glad you have your plan in place...that's the first step to recovery of course.

Yes, it is scary ... I'm in a 'not quite believing it is real' phase at the moment. 

Thanks so much for replying ... please do keep in touch.

Good luck with everything 

Kit

Hi thanks so much for the message.   Yes, I think the breast care team is pretty good where I am ... the older doctor who did the core biopsy was wonderful.    And the specialist I spoke with afterwards was pleasant, intelligent and honest.   

Six days until my result .... enough time to dig a big tunnel to hide in .... or maybe I'll go and hear what my fate will be...gulp!

I'm glad you have a great team around you.   Good luck with everything. X

Hi Jeanne 

Thanks for the reply ... yes, I can feel myself just setting off on this roller coaster ... and I'd rather like to get off now!

That's funny the way you were with your doctor ... 'how can you possibly know ...' .     That may be me too!

I started at least two sentences with ' please don't think me an idiot but...' !   And then asked something even I think stupid.

I'm going to be - do I HAVE to have THAT .... and they're REALLY going to hate me when I say ... " I read on the Internet..."!!

Yep so far I'm not having pills, chemo, radiotherapy or .... I don't know anything else ... but I'm not having it.   So far.   At least I'm saying that this week!!!

Good luck with everything. 

Kit

Thanks for that message...means a lot.    Yes I will ask LOTS of questions I'm sure.

Six days to go!

X

Hi , hope you can find some distractions for next 6 days. Careful when googling as a lot of the information may well be out of date and treatments have changed over the years. Try and stick with sites like McMillan, NHS etc.  I googled before my results and diagnosed myself and as I’m not medically trained in any way my own diagnosis was obviously wrong Take care and let us know how you get on x 

Hi Kit, so sorry to hear you have found yourself in a similar position I found myself in back in 2013.

I can remember the day so clearly as if it were only yesterday.  My daughter came with me to my appointment to get the results after a follow up appointment from a routine mammogram.  We sat in the waiting room for hours watching people go in to see the consultant and soon after leave.  We were laughing at a lovely old lady who had brought a packed lunch with her, she had to sit and wait for her transport.

Eventually we were called in, we had plans to pop into town afterwards and have a look around the Asda Superstore.  I thought it strange when a nurse came into the consultants office and took a seat.  I was asked a couple of questions - I was still thinking this is just routine.  Then they dropped the bombshell.  Eeek!

I remember sitting there just looking at my consultant not quite understanding what he had told me when I heard a sniffle behind me - my daughter.  The only thing that came to my mind was I had booked to go to Ibiza as that was where my daughter was getting married.  The wedding was in June, just a couple of months away.  That is what I said when I finally managed to speak!

It is so bizarre how you react when told news you were not expecting and trying to get your head around everything.  Wondering what is next, what will I have to go through, how bad is it, loads of stuff.  Then you remember your family who don't know yet and how are you going to explain.

Well I feel I am one of the lucky survivors. I received excellent care, advise and support over the years since first diagnosed.  Some days were not easy but you get through them and feel blessed.

I do hope all goes well for you like it did for me.

Sending much love

Wendi