Advice

Hi Stevww1260 welcome to the forum and why would you think that you are cheeky? You are most definetely not, you are worried and have come to the right place. 

It sounds like they feel that this is totally treatable and are going to remove the breast and I am assuming that the Cancer has been found in the breast again? That may explain why they are doing the Mastectomy this time as opposed to a Lumpectomy. If it wasnt curable they would have said that believe me they don't mince their words, which is maybe a bit reassuring for you. 

I imagine it will be really scarey for you and your wife right now but hold on to the positive and dont let the negative thoughts in until and unless you need to. I know thats easier said than done but he may also have to have chemo and maybe other treatment but no reason to hope that she will come out the other side and go on to live a full life.

Sending some hugs your way for now.   

Hi Stevew1260

i am also dealing with a recurrence of breast cancer having had a mammoplasty in 2014 I found a new lump in the same breast in April of this year.  I had various scans and tests to see if it had spread anywhere else and fortunately for me it hadn't,   Following a Mastectomy on 1 July I then had a treatment plan set out with my input with my oncologist.

I appreciate it is difficult but It is best to wait for the results to come in as that will determine what treatment plan needs to be followed.

Good Luck 

Hi, I’m sorry your wife has had more bad news, sounds like she’s had a tough time. I am also dealing with my second breast cancer and mine is treatable so hopefully when you get your wife’s results it’ll be the same x

Thank you for all you kind words, and advice, we have found today that the cancer has not spread to the liver or the lungs,  it is only in the breast. therefore the mastectomy should get rid of al the cancer. I would like to than you all for taking the time to speak with me, as i didn't know which way to turn for advice. I wish you all only the best for each of you who replied to me. Whilst those going through this are the ones who have to undergo the procedures, I think at times people forget that the partners, need support from time to time. I must confess that I had a cry or two in the shower. Again many thanks. 

Hi stevew1260, yes we can all get caught up in the transactional/medical side of this abd forget the emotional impact on those around us. Isn’t it strange how we all find our safe places to be vulnerable, showers, baths, cars! I am very pleased to read that your wife’s cancer is contained to her breast and that a mastectomy is the way forward, her care team have a plan and they will now execute this and take care of your wife during this time. 
Wishing your wife well and she can be thankful to have such a caring partner to support her x If you need to talk you know that the site is always open

That’s really good news and I’m so pleased for you both. I hope that your wife copes with her treatment and you both have the support around you that you both need, you’re so right that cancer affects everyone in the family and it’s damn scary. Always feel free to post on here and I believe there is a friends and family forum too, all the best x

So pleased to read this. Hope that all the treatment goes well.