Triple negative grade 3.......

Hi Chelseagirl sorry to hear of your diagnosis.  I’m sure we are all afraid at the beginning.   I have exactly the same diagnosis as you and it’s not going to kill either of us, but I felt exactly the same as you at the beginning!  I’ve had my lumpectomy first too (which for me was hardly painful at all).  I was told mine was caught early and not thought to be in lymph nodes. Even if it is in lymph nodes then chemo (which I’m also having) will be there to mop up any stray cells.   I think you will feel so much better afterwards when ‘it’ has gone but when you’re waiting it’s horrible.  In hindsight knowing what I know now, I would have trusted the team of doctors more and worried a lot less!  Hope that helps a bit x

Thank you so much for your message , I am in such a dark place  at the moment , just hope I can be as brave as you 

Hey I’m not brave but it does get easier.  I think you’ll know what I mean when it’s gone.  Meanwhile you’ll get lots of support and advice here and there’s also a triple negative group which you can join in addition to this group.  I called the Macmillan helpline too (lots)! 

Chelseagirl.......hello. I hope all goes well for you on the 29th. Not too far away now but the waiting is certainly the worse. There's that fear of the ' unknown'  too.It doesn't matter how much is explained either.....your mind works overtime until it's over. But Wobbly1 is right. Once the lumpectomy is done....recovering from it is not so difficult although there will probably some more waiting afterwards as they analyse the tumour. 

As you have triple negative cancer you will probably have chemo and radiotherapy.  It's often a precaution to prevent reoccurrence because unfortunately with triple negative you don't  need hormone inhibitors and there isn't another treatment fully recognised yet.

I thought I would write to you because you find yourself in a very similar situation to the one I was in. My lumpectomy was on Nov 26th and after final results on Dec 14th, ( TNBC) my chemo started on Jan 2nd. That was in 2015. On Dec 15th this year I have my sixth year mammogram.  I have no reason to think it won't be clear.

So don't despair. Of course you will worry. That's normal but remember that the lumpectomy will set you on the way to recovery.

Take care. Love Karen

Wow , what a journey you have had such good news , stating to feel a bit more positive this evening , good luck on the 15th you have done so well gives me hope xx

Thanks Karen that helps me too. Good luck on 15th.