Feeling lost post masectomy

HI Mummy36 yes it will go, so sorry you are having a bad time, I can remember those feelings well, you are not alone, one day at a time, hang on in there, it will pass, be kind to yourself, your life has been turned upsidedown and you are in a very scary place.  Love from Ann

You have had a very frightening experience everyone would be finding it hard to deal with .Try to be kind to yourself if it was a friend of yours I'm sure you would be supportive . Try and be supportive to yourself allow yourself to be sad , down ,anxious its all normal. You will soon come to terms with what has happened and that things are not as bad as you first feared. As a mum I'm sure your first worries were will I be here for my children? That is pure terror for any young mum with children . luckily breast cancer is very treatable today you will be here and you need to accept that this experience would be life-changing for anyone. Give yourself time to heal 

Jayne x 

Thank you. Even though I know I’m not alone just to have someone say they remember the feelings it reassures me my feelings are natural. Thank you Ann x 

Thank you Jayne, yes my biggest fear were my children and although I know I will get through this I still worry for them and how they are feeling. I’ve never thought about it as being supportive to myself. Thank you so much for your reply x 

Look after yourself , it's going to take time all your feelings are normal and healthy as you progress all that has happened it will become easier for you. Have a little counciling if you need it. Indulge yourself as much as you can in the long run you will heal quicker as your dealing with your worries and fear's as you go.  

Cheers 

Jayne X 

Hi Mummy36. I had a mastectomy six weeks ago and a couple of weeks ago felt totally lost and just cried every day for a week. Im fortunate in that I don't need any further treatment except tamoxifenso couldn't understand why I felt as I did. I spoke to my breast cancer nurse who said it was totally normal to feel like this as everything had happened so quickly (lump found end of July and mastecmy 13th September) so i, it's only sinking in now what's happened, its a bit like looking back on a dream that didn't actually happen until I look in the mirror. What we have been through is huge antakes time to digest but I found on here lots of people share a link to a paper from Peter Harvey - after the treatment finishes sorry I don't have a link but if you Google you will find it. Read its it's amazing and will make you realise  how you feel is normal, I also got my husband to read it as I was finding it difficult to explain how I was feeling. Hope this helps and things will get betr, after all we have beat cancer sorrysorry for the emojis I wanted to add one at the end but its added them throughout my message. 

It's grief probably. Losing your breast, losing your feeling of safety... It's all a huge loss

Christ , normal I should coco !

Its tough this cancer game , No one is having an easy ride . To be frank if they were they wouldn’t be seeking support on this forum . I doubt very much , in the safety of their own homes , any woman faced with BC treatment hasn't completely broken down at times 

You will also be getting over general anisetic   . I broke down 4 weeks after my surgery and that’s the GA leaving your body .

Youve also been bloody scared ! However well you took the news the reality of it all may only now just be sinking in .

Making mistakes at work ! Shame on you ! No seriously, you’ve just been through a life changing event and your mind is trying to cope with that . Please be kind to yourself . Your mind needs time to readjust . That’s all . 
Priority is you , taking time out to just be .

Rejoin your normal life at an accepted pace . Your kids need you and  your husband needs to step up , if he hasn’t done already ? You would do the same for him  if the boot was on the other foot . I’m sure your husband is deep down really worried to and when your better treat him to some down time as well . 
My partner was bloody useless when I was first diagnosed and clearly wanted it to all go away . He had a few home truths told him . We have been together 16 years and I questioned my relationship . Quite honestly I then thought what will be will be I need to get well first . 
Oh , I wish I could wave a magic wand for us all but as i can’t let’s all stick together and walk forward with grace, fortitude and compassion .

Penelope xx

Thank you Penelope, this has made me smile! I didn’t know about the GA so that’s interesting and good to know! I have to say before all this started I always worried how my husband would be in this sort of situation because he’s not particularly good with tears or coping with much more than just his life but he’s been amazing, if he had it his way I would still be on the sofa at Christmas resting. But I felt I needed to start doing some work and helping, just to distract myself if anything. I do think it’s all just hitting me now and the last couple of days have made me realise I need to stop rushing to get everything back to the way it was, I just need to accept that. 

Thank you, Liz x 

Thank you so much I will have a read! My consultant is confidant that I will also only need Tamoxifen (I have one last set of results to come, so I will hopefully have that confirmed Friday) it has also been a fast journey for me, I think 7/8 weeks after I found the lump I had my mastectomy. It’s just hit me like a tonne of bricks this week, and I was so calm up until now. Terrified but in a calm way. 
The dream bit is exactly it, especially now all bandages and plasters are off but I know I will get used to the changes in time. 

thank you for all the emojis, even if by accident they made me smile  

Liz x