Hi,
I am 36 and completely new to all this! Where do I start… I was diagnosed with triple negative grade 3 breast cancer back in March. I have had 15 rounds of chemo (which was really tough towards the end). had a lumpectomy and some lymph nodes taken out through surgery and the results are in… the invasive cancer is out but I have pre cancerous cells in my lymph nodes so it’s radiotherapy next. I know should be happy and don’t get me wrong this is great news , the main cancer is out but I still feel low and a little lost . Has anyone else has similar experiences? I know I’ve got a way to go with radiotherapy etc but my body is so fragile and useless at the moment I just can’t see how I will ever get back to what I was before all of this. Xxx
Hi Michelle2015 sorry you have found yourself here, I had a different type of BC to you but the worry is the same for all of us. You are going through such a lot and whilst it feel that it is never ending you are on the home run, one day soon you will be one of the amazing women who post here every day supporting other women recently diagnosed. You have been through the hardest part of the cancer treatment so keep going, one day at a time. Love from Ann
Thank you Ann for replying to me I really appreciate it. It’s been tough but it’s people like yourself that makes it seem a little bit more hopeful and I hope in the near future that I can do the same. For the most part I have not let it affect me as I have a 6 year old son but every now when I’m sat alone in the evening I struggle a bit with my thoughts and fears. I hope you are well now :) . Love H x
Hello i am sorry you have been through all this, i too was diagnosed in march this year with triple negative breast cancer and like you i have had mt chemo and surgery and now just waiting for 15 sessions of radiotherapy but am too feeling really flat and probably just realising now everything i have been through in quite a short time. Is hard to process every stage whilst going through it i think.
Thank you for replying, it’s so nice to be able to share and talk to people who have been through similar.
I’m sorry that you are going through it all to. I think you are right in saying that our reason for feeling flat is because everything is such a whirlwind for months and then when things slow down it gives us time with our thoughts and feelings and sometimes they get the better of us. We are strong though going through everything so far so we are allowed lows/flat days. Always here for you to talk to xx
Hi Jen,
I’m sorry that you had the news on your birthday :( I really hope that your next birthday will be a happier one.
I will keep everything crossed for you that your results come back clear. Do you know whether you will still have to have radiotherapy?.
Thank you for messaging me. I realise now that when I’m feeling a bit low and alone there are people here that I can talk to that understand and can help each other through this together. H x
Thankyou so much i am here too to talk with at any time. It does help definitely. Yes we are definitely stronger than we think and soon this will all be in the past for us. Xx
Hi Michelle. I had a lump removed, reconstruction, chemotherapy and radiotherapy 2 years ago. All went well and I went back to work and carried on as normal. It’s only in the past 6 months that Ive been feeling low. I too like you want to get back to how I was before but am beginning to realise that I will never be the same and need to accept the new me. That doesn’t mean to say the new m
won’t be better. It’s a long journey but stay strong and positive
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