Feel so down

Hi, I’m so sorry to hear you are feeling so down. Plan yourself some treats, a lovely bath and a great film or whatever you love doing. Plan a day off from all the worrying if possible, ask a friend or family member to keep you busy for a day. Try to have faith in the science of the treatment shrinking your tumours, look for some positive stories? Have you got a lovely friend to talk to, as a hug always helps bring strength. I don’t know if any of that helps  , I’m sending you a virtual hug from here. Be proud of yourself for all you have managed to get through so far! You’ve got this far and you can do the rest ! Hugs and hugs and hugs- you are amazing 

Hello youhavegotthis, so sorry you’re feeling this way.  It helped me if I could get engrossed in a series on catch up and found I could forget it for a while.  I also take Citalopram now (low dose non addictive) which has helped.  As Fiona says try and have faith in the science and there are many positive stories on here of how chemo has worked really well to shrink tumours prior to surgery and that was what happened to a friend of mine x

Hi when I read this I thought I must have posted it ! You sound just like me its hard fighting this disease isn't it. I have been having so many down days . What treatment are you having at the moment ? Have you got lots of support ? I'm hoping to have CBT soon as I'm so down I think I'm even depressing my breast care nurse . This will only be temporary we need to remember that  and tomorrow will be a new day 

Take care thinking about you 

Jayne 

Hello Youhavegotthis and Rhiwbina. Sorry that you are feeling so down.  Being given a cancer diagnosis certainly shatters your world.  It is easy and natural to feel  really down, angry, grieving etc.  All very negative but sometimes it is so hard to crawl out of this mire that you find yourself in.  My breast surgeon was emphatic that a positive attitude aids recovery.  At first I though It is OK for you as you don't have this disease.  It has taken a while and I am not saying that I don't have down days from time to time, but I have made a resolution to enjoy each day as it comes as much as I am able to.  As I live alone I do not have anyone to talk to about this but I try to keep occupied and to listen to my body, when I feel tired I sleep etc.  I try to do one thing that I will enjoy each day.  I have also made a list of my chemo treatments and those horrid tummy injections and I cross them off as I go.  Cancer is very treatable now and most people have success.  I think of my treatments as steps along the road to recovery and getting back my old life.  I am very fortunate to have two dogs for company and I take them out every day for walks which helps a lot.  I think a treat a day would be very good for you both and would give you something to look forward to.  This is not an easy road, but we can do it and we will.  Sending you both a virtual hug.  Take care.  This time will pass. 

Hello Youhavegot this and Rhwbina

I am sorry that you you are both having a trying day. I think Fiona and Thirds advice about talking to someone, or even to us here in the forum and treating yourselves to something you like, is good advice.

It is perfectly natural to have down days, we all have them. We are all dealing with something that we did not sign-up for. However, as the saying goes, we are where we are. The treatments nowadays have ever better outcomes and we have every reason to expect to get over this and hopefully put it behind us. I think that a positive outlook, as far as possible, does help recovery. I find even just making myself go out for a short walk and re-engaging with the normal non-BC world can help me when I have a day like that.

Best of all though, are my best girlfriends to whom I can say anything, about anything, no matter how unreasonable I am being [and I can be really harsh] and whom will listen and support me in my self and never never judge.  

I hope that you both feel a bit better tomorrow. If not, consider phoning McMillan or your GP and ask for sources of support to help get you out of this spell of how you are feeling. Don't suffer alone and don't be silent.

I am sending you big virtual hugs and wish I could give them to you myself.

Wall the best

WallyDyg

Thankyou for this lovely message that was both thoughtful and helpful. I can't believe that you are well enough to go out every day on Chemotherapy goodness I don't feel that I will be that good . Yes this had shattered my life and sometimes when I look around I see life going on for people without a care in the world and im in limbo . Worrying about all the horrible needles that I will have to have and all the horrible side effects that some days I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. On a positive note my GP rang me today for a catch up she was the GP I saw the day I found the lump and today she spent 20  minutes chatting to me and asking if she could do anything?  I was so lifted by her kindness. I know I'm  getting on my BCN nerves I know that  she is nice but I'm moaning about the Seromas and the pain they cause I feel that I should have had more proactive support to get them drained. I can't do that now as my Chemo is about to start. I felt that I'm making a fuss but to have both sides affected and both arms I think that they need to recognise that , that is a little more difficult. But at llandough I have had wonderful care and support especially from the Physiotherapist who has worked so hard on my arms popping off the cords bless her she has really helped and she runs zoom arm and walking classes for all her patients every day . So I'm lucky just feel that my strength has gone 

Thankyou for you kind words 

Jayne 

Thankyou Wallydug 

Lovely people like you spending time thinking about me and trying to come up with solutions is so kind . I think the CBT will help me a lot I'm going to chase that up .  I started back on painkillers today codine as Seromas so painful they have helped a bit .  I think I can do this just down at the moment 

Thankyou for kind words X 

Take care 

Jayne 

Thankyou for your wise words and taking the time to reply to us. You are right time will pass and the sun will come out again X 

Cheers Jayne x

HI all

I read all your posts and empathise fully. Everything you are feeling is normal, it's a process and to get through it I had goals and like Thirds has said ticked off each treatment, it really helped me get through. I thought of all my treatment positively and as if it was a friend, doing what it needed to do. I had faith in my team and finished treatment April last year . Like Youhavegotthis it went from not bad just surgery and rads to full blown everything, two surgeries, all nodes removed chemo, rads now letozole ! Try to stay focused and treat and look after yourself. 

Xxx