Hi all,
Not really asking question, just trying to write down the reality, I am scared, was hoping if anything I will be ok with radiotherapy, chemotherapy sounds scary to me, plus the loss of hair etc,
I am official diagnose with Ductual Breast Cancer Grade 3 ( 1 lump 20mm, second 25mm and glands biopsy is also positive), I am waiting for MRI for Breast and overall CT scan to see if not spread elsewhere.
My treatment plan is 18 weeks chemotherapy ( 3 weeks cycle), follow up by mastectomy, my brain probably didn't process all the informations, therefore I am still ok ish, unless I am home absolutely alone, which I try not.
My husband isn't very supportive right now, as apparently it's very hard for him although I am the one who has bloody Cancer, but hopefully he will absorb it soon ish, as I need someone to lean on, but at the moment pretty much ignoring me, plus he is away, plans to come once I know chemo dates.
How did your other half took the diagnosis?
I am still working until chemo starts, then will have to stop as working with elderly.
Any suggestion for chemo treatment, how to prepare, I know everyone reacts differently though..
I am bit worried how my teenager will absorb the information, not sure how to tell her and hubby thinks it's too early to tell her.
Anyway, thank you for sharing any comments and being here for the others as it's scary journey.
Stay strong, let's beat the cancer.
Lucy xx
Hi Lucy, in my experience with my 12 year old, I’ve found that I was totally honest with her, other than the minute details of my diagnosis. I wanted her to be certain I was telling her the truth so she didn’t fill in her own blanks. They’re always listening, they hear stuff and put two and two together, they have the Internet! If you don’t tell her someone or something else will. You know you’ve got cancer, that isn’t going to change. I think him not wanting to tell her is maybe him not facing up to what’s happening which you’re implying in your post, I don’t think that’s uncommon. My daughter has really appreciated my approach and has coped in ways that just astound me. They are amazing. Just my view, you know your child better than anyone and go with your gut instinct.
Regards chemo, everyone reacts differently even on the same chemo. My prep advice includes, if you’re getting a picc put in, get a waterproof cover before that happens, some hospitals provide one, mine didn’t, you really need one! I had dreadful acid reflux first time which increased my nausea, I started omeprazole (under advice so check) and it helped so much so maybe ask for some in advance with your other support meds (steroids, antisickness, etc) which they give you. Make time to rest, make up the spare bed!! I have suffered from insomnia with the chemo so space to yourself at night could be important, Chuck him in the spare bed mind!!! It’s not all about him 
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