Post mastectomy relationship problems

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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Hey guys,

I am now two weeks post mastectomy and reduction on the healthy breast.

My partner wont look at my boobs because he is so screamish and I completely respect that.

The issue I have is that he loved my old breasts which were much bigger than what I have now and I feel as though he’s using the screamish excuse to avoid being intimate with me.

Did any of you experience this with your partner? He’s assured me he still loves me but I’m just so scared that when my breasts have healed he’ll not fancy me anymore

FormerMember over 4 years ago

Hi Stresshead35 welcome to the forum. I feel certain that you are expressing a fear that many women encounter and its often one of the areas of our lives that seldom get talked about.

I can imagine that your own body image will have changed as a result of the surgery how do you feel about how your breasts now look? It is difficult to say how any relationship will work out in the longer term but I would suggest hanging on to the fact that he loves "you" and after all you can replace "the boobs" but you cant replace "you" and its "you" he loves so keep that in mind and take each day as it comes.

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Thank you for this. I actually like my new boobs although I’ve lost a nipple but have come to terms with that! We had a talk today and I feel a bit more at ease about it now!

thank you for your kind words x

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Aw I am so pleased to hear that its good to talk and keep talking. xxxxxx

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