Secondary breast cancer

Hi , sorry you are dealing with this on your own, I hope you will feel less alone just being here on the forum. There are many folk here also with secondaries, we’re a real mixed bunch in every way! Except that we’re welcoming and caring, so I hope that will help. 
I thibk many of us put on a front and act as if it’s all hunky dory whilst at times quaking with fear inwardly. This is the one place you don’t have to pretend. Actually the cancer support officer at the Maggie’s centre where I went around this time last year said just that to me when I went for my initial visit and straight away burst into tears! A shame that they are now shut but I still do weekly zoom mindfulness sessions with the one at Addenbrookes. 
I can’t help re timescales but I’ll just say that there seem to be many here who are living with secondary cancer for years. 
I also totally get your point re the treatments making you queasy. I think that is one of the really challenging about breast cancer, most of us felt perfectly well before our treatment but then feel varying degrees of unwellness because of side effects, both short and long term. 
Thanks for the hugs, sending you a very big virtual hug back. Love and best wishes, HFxx

PS - have you looked at the Awake thread, started by lovely LondonLass? Worth a look for lively banter and also lots of kindness and support. Xxx

Hi , just wanted to pop on and say hello. I am a fellow Secondary Cancer badge wearer! I have been 'living' with secondaries for 5years after being diagnosed with primary Breast Cancer in 2013! My disease is currently stable and although I have ongoing issues caused by the original chemo I had and then the surgery to try and remove the secondary tumour. But the cancer itself has taken a back seat and is currently behaving itself quite nicely. 

So although I only have bone mets, I know others that like you have lung and liver involvement and they still continue to do well. So don't be assuming you'll be going anywhere anytime soon! 

I know it must be hard trying to deal with this on your own. Is there no one you could 'bubble' up with? So that you can have some company? Just a thought. If not, as Alison HappyFeet1 mentioned. You would be made VERY welcome in the AWAKE thread. So long as you are in the need of a few giggles and can put up with slightly 'strange' individuals.....well we aren't called the Fruit Loops for nothing!! If you feel that might be of interest to you then just post on there and I promise you will be made very welcome! 

I hope you can find someone to chat with openly soon. As this is not something that you can do on your own, unless you have too or if that's what suits you! Be kind to yourself and remember it's okay to admit that you are not okay!! Sal xxxx